Back from Charlottesville
I went to UVA on Wednesday night to work a few things out, and I never would have believed that I would miss being there as much as I do. I guess it's true that time heals all wounds. It has been over six months since I've been there or seen most of my friends, and I was so ecstatic to be there. So, after careful consideration, I've decided that I
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And I guess the point of my last paragraph isn't that, men and women can't be friends, but that we really have to be more honest about why we are friends, what our intentions are, and how the other party may perceive our friendship. One of the big problems that I find between men-women friendships is that a lot of times there are no boundaries whatsoever, which is just a setup for the relationship to progress to a whole different level.
Furthermore, you can't gauge what's in the other person's head. You might tell your friend something, just because you want a woman's perspective. But as a woman, I can tell you that many women will not take it like that. A lot of women--and I guess it really does depend on the person as well--will take that as some sort of signal. Now you might not be ready to take it there, but the other party is misconstruing everything you do as a signal that you want to move forward. You hug her for too long...she thinks you're in love now. You get what I'm saying?
Besides, do you know how many women out here are ready to pounce on a nice, Black, Christian man about to get a degree?
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