Geez, grow some balls why don'tchya??
It's always easier said than done. You tell someone to suck it up and just go through with something. In this case, confronting someone with any "romantic" feelings towards them, is always easier for you to tell someone to do than for you to actually do it yourself. However, if you really tried hard, if you really THOUGHT about it, and put yourself in this person's shoes, you'd begin to realize just how terrified you'd be too.
What is it that we even fear in the first place? Rejection? You think, "I'm gonna be so embarrassed if I get rejected". Sure, nobody wants to be rejected. So what's the easiest remedy for this? Simply put: avoid the chance of being rejected in the first place. The only thought that floods your head is "Hey, if I don't ask, I can't get blown off".
You're scared of what this person might be thinking of you afterwards. Maybe they're getting the wrong impression of you. You don't want to be left panicking to try and justify your actions. You're left with saying, "No wait, I'm not a slut for wanting to just sleep with you, there's more to it than that..", or "I'm not weird for falling for you so easily.."
Then what happens if this person actually does reject you or gets the wrong idea but brushes it off as if nothing happened? You'll feel awkward around them and would have lost a friendship. No longer can you talk to this person freely, nor can you be in this person's presence without being paranoid about what they're thinking of you. Yeah, you're scared of the awkwardness too.
So why do we let our fears get to us? Why is it that we allow ourselves to succumb to our fears. Why be this big ball of pessimism? If only we could see how trivial these fears actually are.
Really, why fear the embarrassment? Do you really think this person is going to tell other people "omg, just asked me out, what a tard"? If that actually does happen, good riddance to the motherfucker and MOVE ON! Why fear the awkwardness and the impression you give off to this person? Okay, a little harder for me to defend BUT, all I can say is that you can never go through life avoiding these things.
I think it all comes down to human nature; no matter what the context, it's natural for us to want to do the easiest thing possible. You do things the easy way because it's comfortable; it's comforting knowing that you won't have to face the facts yet (kinda like procrastinating). It's easy to run away because it's instinct to run from fear. HOWEVER, there is, of course, a downfall to all of this. When the end finally comes, you're going to get caught and suffer anyways. Sucking it up and facing the truth is what will help you grow. Seize the moment, and take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way. If you don't voice how you feel, you'll never know what could have happened. Sometimes it'll hurt yes, god knows for how long, but in facing your fears, you'll have saved yourself a lot of time (which would have been spent moping and dreading over something that might not even happen).
What is it that we even fear in the first place? Rejection? You think, "I'm gonna be so embarrassed if I get rejected". Sure, nobody wants to be rejected. So what's the easiest remedy for this? Simply put: avoid the chance of being rejected in the first place. The only thought that floods your head is "Hey, if I don't ask, I can't get blown off".
You're scared of what this person might be thinking of you afterwards. Maybe they're getting the wrong impression of you. You don't want to be left panicking to try and justify your actions. You're left with saying, "No wait, I'm not a slut for wanting to just sleep with you, there's more to it than that..", or "I'm not weird for falling for you so easily.."
Then what happens if this person actually does reject you or gets the wrong idea but brushes it off as if nothing happened? You'll feel awkward around them and would have lost a friendship. No longer can you talk to this person freely, nor can you be in this person's presence without being paranoid about what they're thinking of you. Yeah, you're scared of the awkwardness too.
So why do we let our fears get to us? Why is it that we allow ourselves to succumb to our fears. Why be this big ball of pessimism? If only we could see how trivial these fears actually are.
Really, why fear the embarrassment? Do you really think this person is going to tell other people "omg, just asked me out, what a tard"? If that actually does happen, good riddance to the motherfucker and MOVE ON! Why fear the awkwardness and the impression you give off to this person? Okay, a little harder for me to defend BUT, all I can say is that you can never go through life avoiding these things.
I think it all comes down to human nature; no matter what the context, it's natural for us to want to do the easiest thing possible. You do things the easy way because it's comfortable; it's comforting knowing that you won't have to face the facts yet (kinda like procrastinating). It's easy to run away because it's instinct to run from fear. HOWEVER, there is, of course, a downfall to all of this. When the end finally comes, you're going to get caught and suffer anyways. Sucking it up and facing the truth is what will help you grow. Seize the moment, and take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way. If you don't voice how you feel, you'll never know what could have happened. Sometimes it'll hurt yes, god knows for how long, but in facing your fears, you'll have saved yourself a lot of time (which would have been spent moping and dreading over something that might not even happen).