weddings and wheelchairs
I am shocked and appalled.
I was searching for information on weddings and wheelchairs, because my friend who I've asked to be my bridesmaid is in a wheelchair and I wanted to see if there was anything online that would help with planning.
First thing google throws up is a blog from 2005, in which I quote;
"Well I’m off down South tomorrow to go be bridesmaid for my sister’s wedding. Some of you may remember that last year when she asked me, I said by that time I’ll have my electric w/chair, at which she declared that she didn’t want “that thing whirring up the aisle behind her.”
However, despite this particular prejudice I am pretty wonderfully included as a crip bridesmaid. An usher has been delegated to supervise my mobility from one end of the church to another. I’m not following my sis’ up the aisle and am under no obligation to stand at any point during the proceedings. I have a stool to sit on during my reading (I've got the Corinthians bit about love - I'm thinking of adding a few gags, what do you think? ) and during the photographs. And I have a room close to the reception in which to go crash when I need to.
I can kind of understand her original remark. Trouble is, sort of people the families are, they would stare at the bridesmaid in the wheelchair as opposed to the bride entering the church. I have been anxious all along that my mobility and my general poor stamina would mean more fuss and bother than fulfilling the role is worth but as it is, it all looks good."
I think it was very big of her to attend the wedding in any capacity after that. I've boycotted family weddings for less. I just can't believe that anyone could be that callous towards their own sister. FFS, surely it's wonderful that she has her there at all? Forget 'that thing' that she's sitting in; she's a person and she's your sister and you should be damn grateful for her.
Words fail me.
*~K~*
I was searching for information on weddings and wheelchairs, because my friend who I've asked to be my bridesmaid is in a wheelchair and I wanted to see if there was anything online that would help with planning.
First thing google throws up is a blog from 2005, in which I quote;
"Well I’m off down South tomorrow to go be bridesmaid for my sister’s wedding. Some of you may remember that last year when she asked me, I said by that time I’ll have my electric w/chair, at which she declared that she didn’t want “that thing whirring up the aisle behind her.”
However, despite this particular prejudice I am pretty wonderfully included as a crip bridesmaid. An usher has been delegated to supervise my mobility from one end of the church to another. I’m not following my sis’ up the aisle and am under no obligation to stand at any point during the proceedings. I have a stool to sit on during my reading (I've got the Corinthians bit about love - I'm thinking of adding a few gags, what do you think? ) and during the photographs. And I have a room close to the reception in which to go crash when I need to.
I can kind of understand her original remark. Trouble is, sort of people the families are, they would stare at the bridesmaid in the wheelchair as opposed to the bride entering the church. I have been anxious all along that my mobility and my general poor stamina would mean more fuss and bother than fulfilling the role is worth but as it is, it all looks good."
I think it was very big of her to attend the wedding in any capacity after that. I've boycotted family weddings for less. I just can't believe that anyone could be that callous towards their own sister. FFS, surely it's wonderful that she has her there at all? Forget 'that thing' that she's sitting in; she's a person and she's your sister and you should be damn grateful for her.
Words fail me.
*~K~*