It wasn't so bad... and I'm going back to the island on my own, but it was great to have a local show me the best beach around.
...It wasn't until later that I started thinking, "Gee, if I was going on a date with a girl that really wanted to impress and that I had just met, my first impulse would not be to take my pants off and walk around in front of her."
Yeah... I'm really good at telling stories...that don't quite capture the reality.
((-_- I just got rid of my "he's got his pants off again. He sure seems proud of himself" icon because I thought I wasn't using it enough. Why, why did I not wait another day or two?))
Maybe he though that was a good way to show off? Or more likely, he thought you were just looking for someone to fool around with while you're there. My flatmate had the same problem. It seems to be the general assumption about girls studying abroad.
No, no, I think you just don't *realize* how sketchy it is until you're telling people about it.
Like the time I got rid of my ZombieHizashi icon and now I keep wanting it...
For the purposes of brevity I left out the part where he stopped back at his place to take a shower before we met up with friends, and he came back naked and sat on his bed and had a cigarette while I watched Myth Busters on his couch.
*sigh* This is what I get for openingly being intrigued by sex.
Dammit, you're not in the Naruto RP, you don't know how much my character was little more than me with a headband.
Cocktease: Not an insult dreamed up by "the man". It's leading someone on, which is never cool.
All in all your boyfriend sounds like a creep so I'm glad to hear you won't be seeing him again if you have the choice. It's never cool to take your pants off on the first date... unless there's an understanding and even then you come off as a whore at best (been there, done that).
Kissing really is gross... I think that's the point of it. Sex in general is gross--there's really nothing not gross about it. There' a lot of fluids and smells and noises and it really not as pretty as cable TV would have you believe. But like I said, that's the point. It might just be that I'm a gross guy and I like all that gross stuff, but if you really get into it with somebody you even half-like it doesn't seem as bad as it actually is.
The fact that your ideal partner is someone you can argue with does not speak well of your mental state, by the way.
Psh, a cocktease is just a woman who doesn't want to sleep with the guy calling her a cocktease.
It's weird, he didn't seem like a creep at the time, but everything he did was undeniably a little sketch. I understand that you menfolk don't like pants, but, still. Keep it classy.
I know sex is gross... I think not liking gross sex with other people is just an extension of my general dislike of people.
Well, my reasoning is that I like to argue, but only with people that I'm comfortable with. If I'm not comfortable enough with someone to argue with them, I'm certainly not comfortable enough to get their bodily fluids all over me.
Well, for all that you don't want to go out with him again it sounds like it wasn't a bad date! Congrats on that!
"I guess that makes me a cocktease, but FUCK YOU, that's just another insult dreamed up by The Man to keep women from taking control of their own sexuality." <--- damn straight woman!
At least you'll probably never have to see him again if you don't want to.
It was a pretty good date, actually! It was only slightly tainted by the knowledge that I would have had more fun doing it completely on my own, but now that I know where the place is I'm going back on my own, and I kissed a guy on the beach. Everything worked out 'kay!
Bleh, he called me at 2:30 am today. Our mutual friend had a party at her place and I was going to go but I just didn't feel up to it... which I told her at 11:00 pm. I kinda wish I'd answered, 'cause I've never been drunk-dialed before.
Seriously, yes. Definitely sounds like a nice date, mostly, but you don't need to be interested in him, and you don't need to keep him around if you'd rather not. Good on you for ending it, if that's what you're going to do.
I'm not a fan of kissing. Like, really. It's slimy and gross. Disney lied to me again. I don't really know what I was expecting in all my elaborate hormone-induced romantic fantasies, but reality does not live up. Also, I don't know why the fuck men seem to think that frenching is ok on a first kiss, but honestly. (I'm ok with non-mouth-to-mouth kissing, ironically enough. I dunno, I'm just a mess).
Yeah, I don't like kissing either. At all. I mean, I've never kissed someone I was actually interested in or sexually oriented towards but slimy and gross pretty much covers it.
I guess that makes me a cocktease, but FUCK YOU, that's just another insult dreamed up by The Man to keep women from taking control of their own sexuality.I don't know. Half the time I can't even interact with guys without wondering if I'm
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Yeah... There's no real definitive reason to end it, but I'm just not interested and that's reason enough. It was a good time. Everything worked out. (I still haven't told him though. Bleh, I hate being so nonconfrontational).
Well, at least I'm not alone on the kissing thing. I heard there was some study (on Yahoo!, mind) that found guys prefer sloppy kisses and women don't. >.< I guess that accounts for some of it, but I think I'm just still 5 years old.
I second guess the signals I'm sending all the time, that's why I've decided to go ahead and be a tease. I make loud sex jokes and flirt obviously and don't get shy about showing off my breasts. If I'm not doing that, I'm not being myself, and if I'm not being myself, how am I supposed to make any friends whatsoever? I mean, I can tone it down some depending on the situation, but I'm not going to keep changing my personality for the sake of not 'leading guys on'. Way too stressful.
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Also I'd like to point out that quite a few of your stories end with "it really wasn't as sketchy as I'm making it sound."
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...It wasn't until later that I started thinking, "Gee, if I was going on a date with a girl that really wanted to impress and that I had just met, my first impulse would not be to take my pants off and walk around in front of her."
Yeah... I'm really good at telling stories...that don't quite capture the reality.
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Maybe he though that was a good way to show off? Or more likely, he thought you were just looking for someone to fool around with while you're there. My flatmate had the same problem. It seems to be the general assumption about girls studying abroad.
No, no, I think you just don't *realize* how sketchy it is until you're telling people about it.
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For the purposes of brevity I left out the part where he stopped back at his place to take a shower before we met up with friends, and he came back naked and sat on his bed and had a cigarette while I watched Myth Busters on his couch.
*sigh* This is what I get for openingly being intrigued by sex.
Dammit, you're not in the Naruto RP, you don't know how much my character was little more than me with a headband.
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All in all your boyfriend sounds like a creep so I'm glad to hear you won't be seeing him again if you have the choice. It's never cool to take your pants off on the first date... unless there's an understanding and even then you come off as a whore at best (been there, done that).
Kissing really is gross... I think that's the point of it. Sex in general is gross--there's really nothing not gross about it. There' a lot of fluids and smells and noises and it really not as pretty as cable TV would have you believe. But like I said, that's the point. It might just be that I'm a gross guy and I like all that gross stuff, but if you really get into it with somebody you even half-like it doesn't seem as bad as it actually is.
The fact that your ideal partner is someone you can argue with does not speak well of your mental state, by the way.
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It's weird, he didn't seem like a creep at the time, but everything he did was undeniably a little sketch.
I understand that you menfolk don't like pants, but, still. Keep it classy.
I know sex is gross... I think not liking gross sex with other people is just an extension of my general dislike of people.
Well, my reasoning is that I like to argue, but only with people that I'm comfortable with. If I'm not comfortable enough with someone to argue with them, I'm certainly not comfortable enough to get their bodily fluids all over me.
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"I guess that makes me a cocktease, but FUCK YOU, that's just another insult dreamed up by The Man to keep women from taking control of their own sexuality." <--- damn straight woman!
At least you'll probably never have to see him again if you don't want to.
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Bleh, he called me at 2:30 am today. Our mutual friend had a party at her place and I was going to go but I just didn't feel up to it... which I told her at 11:00 pm. I kinda wish I'd answered, 'cause I've never been drunk-dialed before.
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I'm not a fan of kissing. Like, really. It's slimy and gross. Disney lied to me again. I don't really know what I was expecting in all my elaborate hormone-induced romantic fantasies, but reality does not live up. Also, I don't know why the fuck men seem to think that frenching is ok on a first kiss, but honestly. (I'm ok with non-mouth-to-mouth kissing, ironically enough. I dunno, I'm just a mess).
Yeah, I don't like kissing either. At all. I mean, I've never kissed someone I was actually interested in or sexually oriented towards but slimy and gross pretty much covers it.
I guess that makes me a cocktease, but FUCK YOU, that's just another insult dreamed up by The Man to keep women from taking control of their own sexuality.I don't know. Half the time I can't even interact with guys without wondering if I'm ( ... )
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Well, at least I'm not alone on the kissing thing. I heard there was some study (on Yahoo!, mind) that found guys prefer sloppy kisses and women don't. >.< I guess that accounts for some of it, but I think I'm just still 5 years old.
I second guess the signals I'm sending all the time, that's why I've decided to go ahead and be a tease. I make loud sex jokes and flirt obviously and don't get shy about showing off my breasts. If I'm not doing that, I'm not being myself, and if I'm not being myself, how am I supposed to make any friends whatsoever? I mean, I can tone it down some depending on the situation, but I'm not going to keep changing my personality for the sake of not 'leading guys on'. Way too stressful.
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