I wanted to wait a while before I responded to your comments because I wanted to be sure to wait until I calmed down and could easily separate out what feelings were due to deaths, IRS, grief, etc. and what feelings were a proximal response to your comment.
I've think I've got it now.
I'm really sorry you're hurting, and I do respect your lifestyle decision, but it's spew like this that makes so many of us omnivores view vegans as sanctimonious pricks.
In an entry where I started by talking about the fact that someone in my family passed away and how generally freaked out and close to meltdown I was, your first comment above was wildly inappropriate (to say the least), beyond callous, and hurtful. It hurt to read that.
You've known me on LJ for over three years. I think you know by now that I'm not the kind of vegan that spends my time on LJ shrilly decrying the omnivore hordes as sinners beyond redemption or anything close to that.
But the core of the matter is that you chose to bring "spew" and semantics into a comment to an entry where I was talking about someone I loved dying and where I'm freaked out by cancer scares all over my family.
So, since I'm telling you that I felt really, really hurt and angered by what you said -- I'll also tell you that although we've been LJ acquaintances for three years, the times that you've kindly invited me to meet you face-to-face (gestures which, by the way, I did appreciate)? I shied away from meeting you in person precisely because of comments like the above - I suspected that one day, you'd lob one my way, and to be even more honest, that suspicion was born of the way I've seen you occasionally talk about other people on your own LJ. It's nothing to do with intimidation - I'm not intimidated by you in the least. It's that I don't want people around me in real life who are capable of lashing at someone when they're down.
So, yeah. It hurt. I didn't expect that comment from you, Laurel, but more importantly, on July 16th, I didn't deserve it.
I've think I've got it now.
I'm really sorry you're hurting, and I do respect your lifestyle decision, but it's spew like this that makes so many of us omnivores view vegans as sanctimonious pricks.
In an entry where I started by talking about the fact that someone in my family passed away and how generally freaked out and close to meltdown I was, your first comment above was wildly inappropriate (to say the least), beyond callous, and hurtful. It hurt to read that.
You've known me on LJ for over three years. I think you know by now that I'm not the kind of vegan that spends my time on LJ shrilly decrying the omnivore hordes as sinners beyond redemption or anything close to that.
But the core of the matter is that you chose to bring "spew" and semantics into a comment to an entry where I was talking about someone I loved dying and where I'm freaked out by cancer scares all over my family.
So, since I'm telling you that I felt really, really hurt and angered by what you said -- I'll also tell you that although we've been LJ acquaintances for three years, the times that you've kindly invited me to meet you face-to-face (gestures which, by the way, I did appreciate)? I shied away from meeting you in person precisely because of comments like the above - I suspected that one day, you'd lob one my way, and to be even more honest, that suspicion was born of the way I've seen you occasionally talk about other people on your own LJ. It's nothing to do with intimidation - I'm not intimidated by you in the least. It's that I don't want people around me in real life who are capable of lashing at someone when they're down.
So, yeah. It hurt. I didn't expect that comment from you, Laurel, but more importantly, on July 16th, I didn't deserve it.
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