Boyfriends
Disclaimer--READ THIS BEFORE YOU HATE: even though I write this as if everything is "universal," it's not. This is just my PERSONAL opinion and my PERSONAL thoughts because this is MY blog, not yours, not the world's, although I felt like sharing it. ...that is all.
So, I don't usually do a personal entry. Usually, my stuff is Jongkey or kpop related. But this is something I have to say.
I'm overweight, or very nearly so. My BMI is 24, and the "normal" range is 18.5 to 24.2. And I've had two boyfriends and one hookup, and I have one boyfriend at the moment.
Two of these guys said that I'm fat.
Okay, dudes, I'll put it out there simply and easily so you can understand. If you have a -chubby- girlfriend, calling her "fat" is among the worst things you can call her. Here's why.
So, I don't usually do a personal entry. Usually, my stuff is Jongkey or kpop related. But this is something I have to say.
I'm overweight, or very nearly so. My BMI is 24, and the "normal" range is 18.5 to 24.2. And I've had two boyfriends and one hookup, and I have one boyfriend at the moment.
Two of these guys said that I'm fat.
Okay, dudes, I'll put it out there simply and easily so you can understand. If you have a -chubby- girlfriend, calling her "fat" is among the worst things you can call her. Here's why.
- It's her body. She knows her body better than you do, no matter how many times you've seen her naked. She knows her body inside and out, whether she wants to or not. She's the one who goes through everything her body goes through. IT'S HER BODY. So she knows if she's "fat" or "chubby" or whatever you want to call it. You don't have to tell her.
- When you call her "fat," the first thing she thinks is, "...what a douchebag." I'm not saying you can't say, "Hey, babe, it's almost summertime. Wanna lose some weight to fit into that sundress you've had in your closet?" But if you call her "fatty," "fat," "chubster," chubbykins," or any variation, she'll think, "Wow, what a douche." Or worse, she'll be hurt. She'll think, "Oh snap, he's right..." and then she'll blame herself: "Why can't I lose weight?!?!" If you care at all for her, don't make her feel like that. Or, if you don't care about her at all, then think about it like this: she'll be all PMS-y after this, all cranky and down and sad, and she won't want anything to do with you for awhile. So save both of you the agony and just don't call her fat, okay?
- The second thing she'll think, if she's anything like me, is, "Dude, you're the one dating me. If you dislike how I look, break up with me. Sure, I'll be hurt, but if you're gonna be like that, I don't want you anyway." So...yeah.