oh hell... [public rant. whoop de doo.]
Okay.
so here it is, plain and simple.
I'm all about the Scott.
When he and I started becoming good friends, he was seeing someone else.
Their relationship came to an end.
We spent the summer together.
As the Fixx would say, one thing led to another.
I did, admittedly, go hang out at his apartment while he was still dating the girl. However, from what I hear, she's totally okay with us, because she understands one very important principle.
People can't be stolen.
The only situation in which a person can conceivably be 'stolen' from you is if you're having an I-It relationship with them, as opposed to the I-Thou relationship. By objectifying a person, and treating them as an object rather than a living being with their own thoughts, feelings, etc., you become capable of deluding yourself to thinking that this person could be / is / was taken.
So, here's the truth, so anyone who was sitting on the fence regarding this whole thing, or even sillier, staying angry yet being nice to my face can know and get over it:
I knew this wasn't going to make other people happy. I knew when I told Bean we were 'hanging out', from her reaction, that there would be waves.
I took this information into consideration.
I talked to the girls at Bean's bridal shower about it. I decided it was a Bad Idea.
He and I went, directly after the shower, to go talk. I told him what was on my mind. We talked. I looked over the rail into swan lake. He came up behind me and hugged me.
You have no idea.
Everything changed.
I don't regret any of it.
If you were in my place, if you had a heart, you would know.
I know where I belong.
I only wish that you could find the peace I've found. As Scott said, "I now know what love is." Everything is different, everything is still the same. Everything is so much better.
I'm making my peace with the world.
so here it is, plain and simple.
I'm all about the Scott.
When he and I started becoming good friends, he was seeing someone else.
Their relationship came to an end.
We spent the summer together.
As the Fixx would say, one thing led to another.
I did, admittedly, go hang out at his apartment while he was still dating the girl. However, from what I hear, she's totally okay with us, because she understands one very important principle.
People can't be stolen.
The only situation in which a person can conceivably be 'stolen' from you is if you're having an I-It relationship with them, as opposed to the I-Thou relationship. By objectifying a person, and treating them as an object rather than a living being with their own thoughts, feelings, etc., you become capable of deluding yourself to thinking that this person could be / is / was taken.
So, here's the truth, so anyone who was sitting on the fence regarding this whole thing, or even sillier, staying angry yet being nice to my face can know and get over it:
I knew this wasn't going to make other people happy. I knew when I told Bean we were 'hanging out', from her reaction, that there would be waves.
I took this information into consideration.
I talked to the girls at Bean's bridal shower about it. I decided it was a Bad Idea.
He and I went, directly after the shower, to go talk. I told him what was on my mind. We talked. I looked over the rail into swan lake. He came up behind me and hugged me.
You have no idea.
Everything changed.
I don't regret any of it.
If you were in my place, if you had a heart, you would know.
I know where I belong.
I only wish that you could find the peace I've found. As Scott said, "I now know what love is." Everything is different, everything is still the same. Everything is so much better.
I'm making my peace with the world.