*LOL* You were supposed to post your own username on that post and others were supposed to tell you on that post how you've changed, etc.
Well, that wouldn't be too much fun, now would it? ^__~None of them know me, and therefor can have nothing to say about it, unlike, say, an ex-gf that might have something insightful and interesting to offer. *hint*
I'm more comfortable with me now.
That's good. ^__^ Loving ourselves is somehow much harder than loving other people, for some reason. I'm glad you're making friends with you.
Now, that is not to say that I am going to run around and be a serial killer because people will still love me for me.
Haha, you'd get an awful lot of gfs that way, though. ^__~
I have the patience of... uhm. Something that is very patient (>.>;)
*offer suggestion* a scorned woman looking for revenge an angel? ^__^
I had someone who I thought was a very good friend take advantage of me somewhat recently, and I wrote about it here...
I saw that post, but I never commented on it. It felt so much like one of those situations where no matter what anyone says, they can't offer anything that will make it better, you know? I didn't want to be another one of those people that... "disdplayed care", because that to me is more about oneself feeling good for being so nice and caring. Sometimes the nicest, most caring thing a person can do is to not try to make it better, partly because it trivilizes the situation. I feel like your situation was kind of like that. I could have sent a hug your way, but it wouldn't have made anything better. It might have made me feel good, but your life problems aren't there to make me feel good. And a situation like that can't really be made better by others' concern. If it's really bad, it can be a burden, really. I often feel like that when I'm going through rough times (like when my uncle died) and people flock to display concern. Usually, I put up with it, and act at least a little bit grateful when people fulfil their own need for feeling good about themselves by "making it better" when I have crap to deal with. But sometimes, when things are really bad, I just don't care. I tell people straight out that I have too much bad going on to fulfil their emotional needs. So yeah, I didn't want you to go through that, on top of what you already had to go through with your "friend".
Well, that wouldn't be too much fun, now would it? ^__~None of them know me, and therefor can have nothing to say about it, unlike, say, an ex-gf that might have something insightful and interesting to offer. *hint*
I'm more comfortable with me now.
That's good. ^__^ Loving ourselves is somehow much harder than loving other people, for some reason. I'm glad you're making friends with you.
Now, that is not to say that I am going to run around and be a serial killer because people will still love me for me.
Haha, you'd get an awful lot of gfs that way, though. ^__~
I have the patience of... uhm. Something that is very patient (>.>;)
*offer suggestion* a scorned woman looking for revenge an angel? ^__^
I had someone who I thought was a very good friend take advantage of me somewhat recently, and I wrote about it here...
I saw that post, but I never commented on it. It felt so much like one of those situations where no matter what anyone says, they can't offer anything that will make it better, you know? I didn't want to be another one of those people that... "disdplayed care", because that to me is more about oneself feeling good for being so nice and caring. Sometimes the nicest, most caring thing a person can do is to not try to make it better, partly because it trivilizes the situation. I feel like your situation was kind of like that. I could have sent a hug your way, but it wouldn't have made anything better. It might have made me feel good, but your life problems aren't there to make me feel good. And a situation like that can't really be made better by others' concern. If it's really bad, it can be a burden, really. I often feel like that when I'm going through rough times (like when my uncle died) and people flock to display concern. Usually, I put up with it, and act at least a little bit grateful when people fulfil their own need for feeling good about themselves by "making it better" when I have crap to deal with. But sometimes, when things are really bad, I just don't care. I tell people straight out that I have too much bad going on to fulfil their emotional needs.
So yeah, I didn't want you to go through that, on top of what you already had to go through with your "friend".
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