Since you asked me to comment I'm going to say this and not respond to anything anyone else puts in response to it.
1. You are trying to make an emotion rational. Which I find very very difficult to accept.
2. I am bisexual, everyone knows it. But the only woman I have ever been in love with was my best friend. I lust for other woman, but as a general rule I only ever fall for guys.
3. Let's take Ajae as an example. There is no way I could seperate the lust from our relationship. I have a high libido and one of the things I love about him is that he ALWAYS takes the time to ensure that I am satisfied. I love knowing that he is attracted to me. I have very low self-esteem and he shows he loves everything about me by telling me that he likes that I'm cuddly.
4. I think that you can fall in love with someone you lust for (that's how Ajae and I started we didn't get to know each other until we'd been making out for an hour).
5. And there are definate gender lines sweethearts... mostly in the way we think. It's a common rule that women seek advice with a solution in mind, Men seek advice looking for a solution. In fact we talked about the processing of information in the human brain in my logic class. I think guntar mentioned above about how the brains are biologically different.
I think though the thing that most intrests me Greg is why you decided to write this... you cite postive and negitive sources, but what were they. I think I would understand your point alot better if you were to explain them (but don't feel that you have to or even that you should)
All in all I actually found most of this quite offensive, which is why (in part) I was reluctant to post. You and I view love soooooo differently (which I think didn't help our relationship at all) and I find many of the assumptions you make to be wrong if you look at love my way.
I, unlike you and guntar, am not as good at explaining my emotions. I find them to be very basic and instinctual. I told Ajae for the first time I loved him while high because I stopped inhibiting my basic instinct. So if this seems a poorly worded or explained arguement well so be it.
1. You are trying to make an emotion rational. Which I find very very difficult to accept.
2. I am bisexual, everyone knows it. But the only woman I have ever been in love with was my best friend. I lust for other woman, but as a general rule I only ever fall for guys.
3. Let's take Ajae as an example. There is no way I could seperate the lust from our relationship. I have a high libido and one of the things I love about him is that he ALWAYS takes the time to ensure that I am satisfied. I love knowing that he is attracted to me. I have very low self-esteem and he shows he loves everything about me by telling me that he likes that I'm cuddly.
4. I think that you can fall in love with someone you lust for (that's how Ajae and I started we didn't get to know each other until we'd been making out for an hour).
5. And there are definate gender lines sweethearts... mostly in the way we think. It's a common rule that women seek advice with a solution in mind, Men seek advice looking for a solution. In fact we talked about the processing of information in the human brain in my logic class. I think guntar mentioned above about how the brains are biologically different.
I think though the thing that most intrests me Greg is why you decided to write this... you cite postive and negitive sources, but what were they. I think I would understand your point alot better if you were to explain them (but don't feel that you have to or even that you should)
All in all I actually found most of this quite offensive, which is why (in part) I was reluctant to post. You and I view love soooooo differently (which I think didn't help our relationship at all) and I find many of the assumptions you make to be wrong if you look at love my way.
I, unlike you and guntar, am not as good at explaining my emotions. I find them to be very basic and instinctual. I told Ajae for the first time I loved him while high because I stopped inhibiting my basic instinct. So if this seems a poorly worded or explained arguement well so be it.
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