003/365 - Leadership
This is very belated; I'll be posting three other 365s today if I remember to and/or have time. Life kind of snuck up and smacked me in the back of the head with a giant hammer; things I'd neglected to address for one reason or another came to a head and ate up all the free time I had and made me cry in the process.
My clan experienced a lot of drama this week. It normally doesn't - something for which I'm eternally thankful - because I had previously come from a clan totally riddled with drama, and had had enough of it. I wanted panic! to be different, and Digit and I, seeking to avoid it as much as possible, set out an accordingly solid framework of rules and processes. For the most part it has worked admirably well. The strength of the friendships formed from a 99.99% online community that revolves around a competitive game is a testament to how hard everyone has worked to keep this clan alive and well.
After a lot of back-and-forth-ing, though, I finally realised yesterday that it's not my job to make people behave in a mature manner. It is not my problem if they can't act like adults when they should know better, and it's not my responsibility to make them talk to each other. Sometimes, leadership involves just sitting on your ass and letting fires burn themselves out, because all your efforts to extinguish them only fan the flames.
At a certain point, my desire to make things work only made them worse. As much as I like to fix problems between people, I had to learn that sometimes, I just can't. And that's okay.