Do Girls Nights Even Exist?
This has been bugging me for a while and I finally had the time to put it into writing, but I'm beginning to doubt if these infamous "Girls Nights" actually exist.
Here is what I have been observing. From what I have seen, guys are known to have a group of very close friends whom they have probably known for a lengthy period of time and also hang out with frequently on a week-to-week basis. This is common from the jocks, to the musical guys in a band or those who attend concerts, to just the group who enjoys going to bars and taking in the night life of the city.
But what about girls? Do they have something similar to this? I'm starting to think that they don't.
And this is why... I've known a handful of girls my life, and the trend seems to be that girls have a "best friend" but rarely hangs out with the same group of girlfriends, like the way guys would. Through the girls I've been in relationships with, I can say that they always had that best friend they could go talk to whenever they needed, but when it came down to "hanging out" it was always with my group of guy friends. Even though I've been single for a while, I'm seeing the same thing happening with my friends who have been in relationships.
It starts out with the group hanging out and doing whatever it is they do. For me, we love to attend bars in the city, watch sports games at our apartments, attend festivals and concerts. Once someone establishes a relationship with a chick, all of a sudden they're included in the group, but never have we've been included with an additional group of friends. Is that weird? At the most, they would invite their best friend with her, but never more than just one friend.
Which got me thinking... why is that the case? I can think through my years of high school and college, and girls would pair up into two's like they were practically engaged to each other, while guys would wander the world in groups, like an army competing against one another.
The only thing I can think of is how girls are extremely competitive when it comes down to general acceptance. Guys are naturally laid back and aren't directly in competition with their friends, unless they're playing sports or rooting for a team. Girls, on the other hand, feel intimidated very easily when there is another girl in the same room. A group of girlfriends? Forget about it! There will be the one girl who would be fought over as if she was head cheerleader, and tensions would fly until everyone but one was eliminated. Is that why girls pair off?
I love to think of the movie Bridesmaids as an example. The film, to me, is quite an accurate portrayal to how girls treat each other in a group. When you have Rose Byrne and Kristen Wiig fighting over Maya Rudolph's approval, the fighting won't stop until someone finally wins. And those girls will remain close for a very long time, that is until a guy (or two) comes in the middle of them. Then the girls lashes onto their man and become direct competition against her former best friend, seeing who's the better couple.
Am I absolutely crazy thinking like this? I always find myself explaining to girls why I get so upset when my favorite sports teams lose, and usually end up suggesting how girls don't know what it's like to be competitive. That was until one girl told me that "all girls are competitive, just in a different way." Well I think this is exactly what she was trying to say. They're competitive against each other and the competition will never end. It's ongoing and there will never be a result that puts it to rest.
I'm just trying to understand the madness.
Here is what I have been observing. From what I have seen, guys are known to have a group of very close friends whom they have probably known for a lengthy period of time and also hang out with frequently on a week-to-week basis. This is common from the jocks, to the musical guys in a band or those who attend concerts, to just the group who enjoys going to bars and taking in the night life of the city.
But what about girls? Do they have something similar to this? I'm starting to think that they don't.
And this is why... I've known a handful of girls my life, and the trend seems to be that girls have a "best friend" but rarely hangs out with the same group of girlfriends, like the way guys would. Through the girls I've been in relationships with, I can say that they always had that best friend they could go talk to whenever they needed, but when it came down to "hanging out" it was always with my group of guy friends. Even though I've been single for a while, I'm seeing the same thing happening with my friends who have been in relationships.
It starts out with the group hanging out and doing whatever it is they do. For me, we love to attend bars in the city, watch sports games at our apartments, attend festivals and concerts. Once someone establishes a relationship with a chick, all of a sudden they're included in the group, but never have we've been included with an additional group of friends. Is that weird? At the most, they would invite their best friend with her, but never more than just one friend.
Which got me thinking... why is that the case? I can think through my years of high school and college, and girls would pair up into two's like they were practically engaged to each other, while guys would wander the world in groups, like an army competing against one another.
The only thing I can think of is how girls are extremely competitive when it comes down to general acceptance. Guys are naturally laid back and aren't directly in competition with their friends, unless they're playing sports or rooting for a team. Girls, on the other hand, feel intimidated very easily when there is another girl in the same room. A group of girlfriends? Forget about it! There will be the one girl who would be fought over as if she was head cheerleader, and tensions would fly until everyone but one was eliminated. Is that why girls pair off?
I love to think of the movie Bridesmaids as an example. The film, to me, is quite an accurate portrayal to how girls treat each other in a group. When you have Rose Byrne and Kristen Wiig fighting over Maya Rudolph's approval, the fighting won't stop until someone finally wins. And those girls will remain close for a very long time, that is until a guy (or two) comes in the middle of them. Then the girls lashes onto their man and become direct competition against her former best friend, seeing who's the better couple.
Am I absolutely crazy thinking like this? I always find myself explaining to girls why I get so upset when my favorite sports teams lose, and usually end up suggesting how girls don't know what it's like to be competitive. That was until one girl told me that "all girls are competitive, just in a different way." Well I think this is exactly what she was trying to say. They're competitive against each other and the competition will never end. It's ongoing and there will never be a result that puts it to rest.
I'm just trying to understand the madness.