What Can I Say, She Struck a Cord
I was talking to a close friend today, I havn't talked to her in a while, but she really got me thinking. WE were talking about J and I not being married. She asked me why, I told her "we" wernt ready, she asked me why I wasn't ready... I couldn't think of anything. Then she asked me what was important to me when it comes to marriage... I said Love, she told me to "shut up, everyone knows that" what was REALLY important to me. Told me to make a list of the top three things and ask myself, "do we have that". So here is what I came up with...
The first quality is Trust. Which I have for J compleatly and totally. I never had TOTAL trust in a relationship and J has made sure I trust him. We have always been open, he has never tried to hide anything from me and that is a big thing, he will tell me even if it is somthing it hurts for me to hear and him to say.
It Never went Stale. We are coming up on two years. I know that isn't very long, but I have been in one other long term relationship. After one year the fights started. I was board and that was my way of trying to be NOT bored! I have never admited that to anyone until today, including myself. But with J I am not board, he is always making me laugh, he suprises me. While we have our low days, I ALWAYS look forward to crawling into bed with him at night, and waking up next to him.
Consideration. I have never met a single person in my life that try's to be as considerate as J. Sure he makes the initial mistake, he doesn't always KNOW, but once a point is made he remembers. He will run to the store when I am sick and get me my favorite things just to help me feel better. He will rub my back to help when I am sore, or just to calm me down after a bad day.
So we have the top three on my list. So WHY are "we" not ready? I thought about it more... We are ready, but he isn't... He wants to be at a higher point in his life. I also have realized it really isn't that important to me. I love him, and he loves me right? We share everything, he is my best friend, and we have a beautiful son together. Why do we NEED to be married? Why isn't what we have as good as being married? I don't have a ring and didn't wear a white dress? Please, it's ridiculous! Not bashing people that ARE married, but I guess people that try to talk us into it, or look down on us because we arn't married... They can FOFF
The first quality is Trust. Which I have for J compleatly and totally. I never had TOTAL trust in a relationship and J has made sure I trust him. We have always been open, he has never tried to hide anything from me and that is a big thing, he will tell me even if it is somthing it hurts for me to hear and him to say.
It Never went Stale. We are coming up on two years. I know that isn't very long, but I have been in one other long term relationship. After one year the fights started. I was board and that was my way of trying to be NOT bored! I have never admited that to anyone until today, including myself. But with J I am not board, he is always making me laugh, he suprises me. While we have our low days, I ALWAYS look forward to crawling into bed with him at night, and waking up next to him.
Consideration. I have never met a single person in my life that try's to be as considerate as J. Sure he makes the initial mistake, he doesn't always KNOW, but once a point is made he remembers. He will run to the store when I am sick and get me my favorite things just to help me feel better. He will rub my back to help when I am sore, or just to calm me down after a bad day.
So we have the top three on my list. So WHY are "we" not ready? I thought about it more... We are ready, but he isn't... He wants to be at a higher point in his life. I also have realized it really isn't that important to me. I love him, and he loves me right? We share everything, he is my best friend, and we have a beautiful son together. Why do we NEED to be married? Why isn't what we have as good as being married? I don't have a ring and didn't wear a white dress? Please, it's ridiculous! Not bashing people that ARE married, but I guess people that try to talk us into it, or look down on us because we arn't married... They can FOFF