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Christmas.
Saturday Brian and I went to my cousin's party in New Hartford which is on the way to Albany. Then we stayed in Albany until Monday around 3 when we left to get back to Syracuse in time for Christmas mass. Then we hung out at my parents house all night playing games and eating and what not.
Adam and Amanda came over before they went to midnight mass and said they would be back Christmas day at 8am to do presents and stuff.
I said Brian and I wouldnt be there that early since we'd been busy for 3 days straight and had a busy Christmas eve.
Christmas Day Brian and I got up and exchanged gifts until my dad called around 9. I saw that he had also text messaged me 3 times beginning at 8:30 on. He wanted to know where I was because Adam and Amanda were waiting for us because they had to go to her house and they weren't staying that long. Brian and I finished up and got going to their house.
Dinner on Christmas at my house is usually an afternoon deal but Adam and Amanda couldnt make it until later. I had been talking to Sara and Erica who were in the area trying to make plans to see them assuming dinner would be in the afternoon. It didnt end up being an issue, but I was a little annoyed that no one tells me any of the plans and just expects me to oblige no questions asked.
Anyway, we opened gifts and then Brian and I stayed throughout the day and watched Miracle on 34th Street with my parents (because somehow Brian hasnt seen it?!) and then had dinner at 5. (I was told it would be at 4 but am pretty sure it got pushed back so they could be at Amanda's later)
I feel I was perfectly fine all day and into dinner. Apparently my brother called my dad later that night and wanted to know why I was so quiet and what the deal was. He then texted me asking me.
I dislike Amanda. I assume he must have an inkling of that.
Im not rude to her or overly nice, Im polite and perfectly fine to her. I just dont go out of my way because I dont feel any desire to bend over to get her to like me seeing as I already dont really like her.
I think I was quiet because I feel offended. Brian and I went out of our way to get to Albany and be with his family a good amount of time but still make it back in time for me to go to church with my family and spend Christmas day with them. Yet, even with the travel and whatnot we had to do, all plans were centered around what Adam and Amanda were doing with their plans.
Adam suggested to my mom that I was trying to make a point by not showing up early on Christmas day. I guess the point I was making was that I was tired and really didnt care what their plans were for Christmas because they didnt care what mine were. We planned on getting there around 10 knowing Adam and Amanda were leaving at 11 and figured that would be sufficient.
Then i get lectured today via email from my mom. I really need to be nicer, and not let my dislike for Amanda ruin the holidays. What? Whose holiday was ruined? I hug her where I greet her, I smile at her when its called for, I follow normal social rules and guidelines when around her.
I dont ask her to kindly shut the fuck up when she complains about her job that she gets paid verrrrry well to do. I dont tell her I dont care about whatever illness she has every goddamn day because the girls always got something to complain about health-wise. I say what should be said in whatever the situation.
I guess I just dont welcome her with open arms into my life like I should a sister in law? But who cares?
I just feel slighted by my family.
My mom asked what if next year Brian's mom doesnt have to work on Christmas, then what would we do. I said that since only Adam and Amanda are considered when making plans Id rather go to Albany. She stopped emailing me after that.
I know Im more blunt that most people, which at times can be hurtful, but my mom doenst realize how much she complains about Amanda to me. For her to do that, but then still consider Amanda over me for the holidays is hurtful and I dont need deal with it.
On a good note, Erica and her fiance and Sara and her husband came over Christmas Eve night and I havent had so much fun in a while. I wish they both didnt live so far away. Sara loved the house and it was cool to be around friends and not scrutiny.
Saturday Brian and I went to my cousin's party in New Hartford which is on the way to Albany. Then we stayed in Albany until Monday around 3 when we left to get back to Syracuse in time for Christmas mass. Then we hung out at my parents house all night playing games and eating and what not.
Adam and Amanda came over before they went to midnight mass and said they would be back Christmas day at 8am to do presents and stuff.
I said Brian and I wouldnt be there that early since we'd been busy for 3 days straight and had a busy Christmas eve.
Christmas Day Brian and I got up and exchanged gifts until my dad called around 9. I saw that he had also text messaged me 3 times beginning at 8:30 on. He wanted to know where I was because Adam and Amanda were waiting for us because they had to go to her house and they weren't staying that long. Brian and I finished up and got going to their house.
Dinner on Christmas at my house is usually an afternoon deal but Adam and Amanda couldnt make it until later. I had been talking to Sara and Erica who were in the area trying to make plans to see them assuming dinner would be in the afternoon. It didnt end up being an issue, but I was a little annoyed that no one tells me any of the plans and just expects me to oblige no questions asked.
Anyway, we opened gifts and then Brian and I stayed throughout the day and watched Miracle on 34th Street with my parents (because somehow Brian hasnt seen it?!) and then had dinner at 5. (I was told it would be at 4 but am pretty sure it got pushed back so they could be at Amanda's later)
I feel I was perfectly fine all day and into dinner. Apparently my brother called my dad later that night and wanted to know why I was so quiet and what the deal was. He then texted me asking me.
I dislike Amanda. I assume he must have an inkling of that.
Im not rude to her or overly nice, Im polite and perfectly fine to her. I just dont go out of my way because I dont feel any desire to bend over to get her to like me seeing as I already dont really like her.
I think I was quiet because I feel offended. Brian and I went out of our way to get to Albany and be with his family a good amount of time but still make it back in time for me to go to church with my family and spend Christmas day with them. Yet, even with the travel and whatnot we had to do, all plans were centered around what Adam and Amanda were doing with their plans.
Adam suggested to my mom that I was trying to make a point by not showing up early on Christmas day. I guess the point I was making was that I was tired and really didnt care what their plans were for Christmas because they didnt care what mine were. We planned on getting there around 10 knowing Adam and Amanda were leaving at 11 and figured that would be sufficient.
Then i get lectured today via email from my mom. I really need to be nicer, and not let my dislike for Amanda ruin the holidays. What? Whose holiday was ruined? I hug her where I greet her, I smile at her when its called for, I follow normal social rules and guidelines when around her.
I dont ask her to kindly shut the fuck up when she complains about her job that she gets paid verrrrry well to do. I dont tell her I dont care about whatever illness she has every goddamn day because the girls always got something to complain about health-wise. I say what should be said in whatever the situation.
I guess I just dont welcome her with open arms into my life like I should a sister in law? But who cares?
I just feel slighted by my family.
My mom asked what if next year Brian's mom doesnt have to work on Christmas, then what would we do. I said that since only Adam and Amanda are considered when making plans Id rather go to Albany. She stopped emailing me after that.
I know Im more blunt that most people, which at times can be hurtful, but my mom doenst realize how much she complains about Amanda to me. For her to do that, but then still consider Amanda over me for the holidays is hurtful and I dont need deal with it.
On a good note, Erica and her fiance and Sara and her husband came over Christmas Eve night and I havent had so much fun in a while. I wish they both didnt live so far away. Sara loved the house and it was cool to be around friends and not scrutiny.