modern relationships
Read ALL of this people. Some great insights near the bottom.
Boys suck. I don't know why I don't learn my lesson after like, oh the 60billionth time...but I never do. Ah well, life moves on. I am reminded more and more each day that I can't be in a relationship right now. I have too much shit going on to have any time to be all analytical and worry about my feelings and the feelings of whatever guy I'm with. No, no time for that. I really enjoy casual dating and would like to stick with that in the future. K. problem solved. I keep thinking that I should be more upset about the demise of my potentially promising relationship but instead I more have the feeling of ironic inevitability - this is my life. This is how things work IN my life.
This is the emotional path of every guy in my life: "Hi you're cute. - Wow you're a really amazning thinker/intellectual person/"really smart" - wow you have some really great insights. - wow you're really funny - I really like you - I really want to spend time with you - I really want to see you again - I'm so glad we met - blah blah blah - oh I have feelings for someone else. K BYE!
It's not so much that I'm bitter, it's more that I'm kinda amused by the emotional and intellecutal capabilities of the guys I have been with and the guys that are all around me. When this potential relationship kinda crashed and burned I wasn't all crying and throwing things. I was just like "oh yes. you don't have to tell me all this, it's the same thing I've heard like 320 times before.- but thanks for your time. gnight!"
Girls - hang in there. You have to go through a lot of really shitty relationships and even worse breakups but you can't give up hope that there is some guy out there who doesn't follow the same emotional path that I have so described. You can't give up hope that someday you will meet said person and fall in love and they won't treat you like shit. You can't give up hope that there is a guy out there that cares deeply about you on the same level that you are capable of feeling. There is a guy out there that can satisfy you; mind, body, and soul. He's just hidden in a crowd of really bad ones. Think of it like the Where's Waldo games we used to play as kids.
Guys - smarten up, will ya? When will you realize that brains are sexier than boobs can ever be? When will you see that a rousing converstaion is often the most intimate act you can have? When will you appreciate that girls are people too, not just an allusive mirage that has to be decoded and then conquered? Call her when she leasts expects it, just to say hi. Write her a note like you used to do in junior high and sign it with X's and O's. Ask her how she's feeling and how her day was. Listen. Try giving her a back rub instead of trying to make out with her. We will be much more willing to make out with you if we don't think that it's the only thing you have been thinking about for the WHOLE MOVIE. Make her feel like she's the most important/best thing in your life. Because she probably is.
Back to chemistry. But take all this seriously. I really mean it. and experience has shown it all to be true. :)
Boys suck. I don't know why I don't learn my lesson after like, oh the 60billionth time...but I never do. Ah well, life moves on. I am reminded more and more each day that I can't be in a relationship right now. I have too much shit going on to have any time to be all analytical and worry about my feelings and the feelings of whatever guy I'm with. No, no time for that. I really enjoy casual dating and would like to stick with that in the future. K. problem solved. I keep thinking that I should be more upset about the demise of my potentially promising relationship but instead I more have the feeling of ironic inevitability - this is my life. This is how things work IN my life.
This is the emotional path of every guy in my life: "Hi you're cute. - Wow you're a really amazning thinker/intellectual person/"really smart" - wow you have some really great insights. - wow you're really funny - I really like you - I really want to spend time with you - I really want to see you again - I'm so glad we met - blah blah blah - oh I have feelings for someone else. K BYE!
It's not so much that I'm bitter, it's more that I'm kinda amused by the emotional and intellecutal capabilities of the guys I have been with and the guys that are all around me. When this potential relationship kinda crashed and burned I wasn't all crying and throwing things. I was just like "oh yes. you don't have to tell me all this, it's the same thing I've heard like 320 times before.- but thanks for your time. gnight!"
Girls - hang in there. You have to go through a lot of really shitty relationships and even worse breakups but you can't give up hope that there is some guy out there who doesn't follow the same emotional path that I have so described. You can't give up hope that someday you will meet said person and fall in love and they won't treat you like shit. You can't give up hope that there is a guy out there that cares deeply about you on the same level that you are capable of feeling. There is a guy out there that can satisfy you; mind, body, and soul. He's just hidden in a crowd of really bad ones. Think of it like the Where's Waldo games we used to play as kids.
Guys - smarten up, will ya? When will you realize that brains are sexier than boobs can ever be? When will you see that a rousing converstaion is often the most intimate act you can have? When will you appreciate that girls are people too, not just an allusive mirage that has to be decoded and then conquered? Call her when she leasts expects it, just to say hi. Write her a note like you used to do in junior high and sign it with X's and O's. Ask her how she's feeling and how her day was. Listen. Try giving her a back rub instead of trying to make out with her. We will be much more willing to make out with you if we don't think that it's the only thing you have been thinking about for the WHOLE MOVIE. Make her feel like she's the most important/best thing in your life. Because she probably is.
Back to chemistry. But take all this seriously. I really mean it. and experience has shown it all to be true. :)