"A" list guys
First off allow me to describe to you what an "A" list guy is exactly. He is the type of guy that you (and I mean you) have on a pedestal. He more then likely fits into a number of your must have categories ("Must have" meaning qualities, physical features etc. that you cannot go without). So lucky me then for being able to go out with one of these "A" list individuals right? Well friends it just so happens that this "A" list guy may be more like "B" list material. Okay so let me help you understand what a "B" list guy is. A "B" list guy is that guy that is always around for you. I mean he is easy to date. He may have a few great qualities you are looking for but he is not the kind of guy that you typically swoon over. In another case he may be that one guy that helps you get over an “A” list guy. While dating a “B” lister one would typically be looking for Mr. “A”. Now getting back to my point. Last night I had the privilege of going out with one of my “A” list guys. This gut has intimidating good looks, not to mention that he is about 6’3 and lean in build. Basically my tall dark and handsome. We share the same taste in music, which is why we went to a concert in the evening. He is easy to talk to and has a good sense of humor. Then why is it that I do not feel that lucky to have gone on a date with him? Someone I would put on a pedestal and admire on a daily basis was suddenly someone I was not that impressed by. He was sweet when we were out. He invited me upstairs for a drink before the show and then once at the show he bought me another drink. We had good conversation about music in between sets. During which we were smiling and joking and having a good time. We talked on the walk back to his apartment and then went up to hang out with his roommates and friends. The night seemed to go be going well. The thing that bugs me is that he seems a little self involved. We hardly spoke once we were around his friends. I decided that since they had no idea if they were going to go out or not I was going to take the opportunity to ditch them and go out with my friend that sent me a text earlier. I said I was going to get going….I picked up my coat and put it on and was waiting for the “okay” to go. After standing for a bit I gave him that “well I am going to go” look. Instantly after that he looked really nervous (could be he was afraid of me or that he was nervous to walk me downstairs). Either way I do not really care. We got downstairs and stood in front of his apartment building. I said “Well I guess I will see you later.” OOPS. That probably was not the best choice of words. Talk about a shot to the ego. Sounded like I could not wait to get out of there. We ended up talking for a bit more. He asked me if I was going to work anytime this week (we work together); I said I do not know…probably. After which he said he would see me at work and that he would “catch me later.” Okay right after he said that he kind of did this lean forward thing. Almost like he was going to hug me. Blow to ego #2: I was turning to walk away as he did this while saying abruptly “see you later.” My take on things is that he is not the guy I dreamed he would be. I am thinking my “A” list guy may be more like “B” list material. Strange to think how quickly an opinion can change about someone. I would give him another shot. He would have to really impress me the next time but I would be willing. Perhaps I need to rethink what an “A” list guy really is to me or maybe the guys that I consider “B” list material would be better qualified as “A” list men. Who knows but dating blows. Back to the drawing board.