Yet another shock to the System
So as some of you all know, my biological father abandoned me at birth, leaving my mother to raise me alone. So fast forward 22 years and I meet one of my cousins from his side of the fam, and bam, all these relatives that I have never met come crawling out of the wood work. I met one of my aunts at my cousins baby shower and we hit it off famously. The very next day she tells, via e-mail, that my grandmother has passed away, and invited me to the funeral. So I said why not, I haven't passed up a funeral yet and I don't intend to start now. Then today I get an e-mail from her that reads; "Dean,
Lois spoke with many of your aunts and uncles while discussing funeral arrangements. She told them that we had met you the day before and briefly explained that you were pretty much estranged from your father. They said they don't care if it bothers your father or not, they would all like to meet you. There are several that are in extremely ill health, so this may be your only chance to meet them. If you get a chance, give me a call tomorrow evening (779-0853) and we will set up arrangements to pick you up and you can go with Lois and I. Or, if it is better for you, you can meet us there. Let me know your preference and WELCOME to the family, long overdue. I promise you will not feel like an outcast. This family has all the disfunctions of every family, but in the end you're a Bowden and that means a lot to all the family.
Glad to have you in our lives,
Debi"
Now I am like really nervous, I mean the one and only time that my biological father and I spoke was when I was sixteen and that didn't really go the way I had hoped. I really want to go but I don't want to cause him any undo stress the day of his moms funeral. I just don't know it's way too much to process and feels like way too much to handle.
I guess I will just wing it and hope for the best.
Luvs
Deano
Lois spoke with many of your aunts and uncles while discussing funeral arrangements. She told them that we had met you the day before and briefly explained that you were pretty much estranged from your father. They said they don't care if it bothers your father or not, they would all like to meet you. There are several that are in extremely ill health, so this may be your only chance to meet them. If you get a chance, give me a call tomorrow evening (779-0853) and we will set up arrangements to pick you up and you can go with Lois and I. Or, if it is better for you, you can meet us there. Let me know your preference and WELCOME to the family, long overdue. I promise you will not feel like an outcast. This family has all the disfunctions of every family, but in the end you're a Bowden and that means a lot to all the family.
Glad to have you in our lives,
Debi"
Now I am like really nervous, I mean the one and only time that my biological father and I spoke was when I was sixteen and that didn't really go the way I had hoped. I really want to go but I don't want to cause him any undo stress the day of his moms funeral. I just don't know it's way too much to process and feels like way too much to handle.
I guess I will just wing it and hope for the best.
Luvs
Deano