I get it
An old manager gave me advice a few years ago and while I didn't necessarily see that what I was doing was such a big deal, I took her advice and modulated something about my personality while at work. Never really agreed w/ her per sea. I used to think, this is stupid, why do I have to follow this inane rule or not tell someone off for being a jerk? I'm venting, dammit, let me vent. What's the harm? My manager told me the harm but I didn't really get it. Not until today when I saw someone else do it.
Now I get it. How damaging it is. Now I get why it undermines a person's credibility when they go off on rants about little things at work. Cause when the person did it today, the first things that flashed through my head were: "It's no big deal, why is she fighting over this when there are so many more important things to fight over", "god she could never advance into management because if she overreacts to something as stupid as this, how is she going to react when she sees the really, really stupid things I see every day?", to "Wow, maybe she can't handle her current responsibilities".
She didn't damage her credibility w/ me b/c I recognized myself and immediately gave her some advice. And she immediately took it. I'm glad she did it around me rather than others cause it would have undermined their confidence in her. But I don't know that she really got it. I didn't really get it until today.
Lesson of the day: don't open mouth until you are sure that what comes out truly benefits your progression forward through life" I have the feeling I'm going to be quiet today.
Now I get it. How damaging it is. Now I get why it undermines a person's credibility when they go off on rants about little things at work. Cause when the person did it today, the first things that flashed through my head were: "It's no big deal, why is she fighting over this when there are so many more important things to fight over", "god she could never advance into management because if she overreacts to something as stupid as this, how is she going to react when she sees the really, really stupid things I see every day?", to "Wow, maybe she can't handle her current responsibilities".
She didn't damage her credibility w/ me b/c I recognized myself and immediately gave her some advice. And she immediately took it. I'm glad she did it around me rather than others cause it would have undermined their confidence in her. But I don't know that she really got it. I didn't really get it until today.
Lesson of the day: don't open mouth until you are sure that what comes out truly benefits your progression forward through life" I have the feeling I'm going to be quiet today.