i lost
I just got done with my second and final counseling session with Mel. We are splitting up now. We'll finalize the separation agreement later this week, and the divorce will go through before the end of summer.
The counselor tried to make sure that we both understood that no one was fully to blame. It seems that I tried to make Mel into something she wasn't: me. I tried to make her more intellectual and philosophical, and got mad at her when she didn't like it. She in turn did not communicate just how much she didn't like it. So it seems I did the bad thing and she didn't let me know I was doing the bad thing, and eventually she left. I think that means I'm 90% at fault, but at least I'm not 100%. /snicker
I grieve. It hurts so much.
I am ashamed of my thoughtlessness and the hurt it's caused.
The counselor tried to make sure that we both understood that no one was fully to blame. It seems that I tried to make Mel into something she wasn't: me. I tried to make her more intellectual and philosophical, and got mad at her when she didn't like it. She in turn did not communicate just how much she didn't like it. So it seems I did the bad thing and she didn't let me know I was doing the bad thing, and eventually she left. I think that means I'm 90% at fault, but at least I'm not 100%. /snicker
I grieve. It hurts so much.
I am ashamed of my thoughtlessness and the hurt it's caused.