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Now, I don't have a fancy paid journal, so I can't make cute little polls, but I have a couple questions (more or less) that I'd like everyone to answer....
1. Do you believe in fate?
2. Do you believe in soulmates?
Please explain and elaborate as much as you'd like.
1. Do you believe in fate?
2. Do you believe in soulmates?
Please explain and elaborate as much as you'd like.
I believe the foundation for love is trust.
Love-at-first-sight would mean trusting your instincts and your eyes to not mislead you ("If it feels so right, how can it be wrong?" kind of thinking); into pouring your time and entire self into a relationship with this person. I find that my dearest friends are people I initially despised, to one degree or another, and also that if I have immediate rapport with a stranger that person will probably be a stranger to me within a year. Therefore, I've come to trust my instincts to be untrustworthy in the long run. But is it fate that directs me toward or away from people?
I do not believe in free will*, but I am happier when I feel like I'm controlling my life and so I act under the premise: free will exists and I have it. I've made conscious choices to fall in love with certain people, and in 6 months I can't tell the difference between this conditional love and another more spontaneously-born romance. After the initial attraction, it's how you treat each other that really counts.
As for soulmates, I do and do not believe in them. I was engaged to Nathan Stimmel for a year and a half. He looked, smelled, spoke, thought, acted like the very man I'd dreamed of all through childhood. We met too soon (by 6 or 7 years I figure, because of where I was in my career/education), and recurring arguments and lack of EQ threatened to destroy us. I hit the highway before things got worse so that one day I could return. After all, we were destined to be together. Right?
Well, I realized after about another year and a half that he and I were never getting back together. I mourned the dream life I'd created. I mourned the children we'd never have and all that other breaking-up bullshit.
But get this: the researcher in boston's name is Dr. Faustman and her partner is Dr. Nathan. The two people who will change my life the most share names with my ex. "Faust" was Nate's online handle for a decade, the only one he ever used. Maybe I was on the right track five years ago finding a Nathan/Faustman combination... but saying that negates all that was good about us and there was a lot.
Do I believe in Fate? Soulmates? Sometimes.
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And that whole Nathan/Faust thing is really interesting. It makes you wonder if maybe we get signs of what's to come so we know what to look for. ? Maybe.
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