"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention."
It's scary how you can become close to someone you know online so quickly and also lose them just as quickly.
This is especially so if they stay in other countries.
If you meet online friends who stay in the same country, you at least have the opportunity to meet up with them and hang out together in real life.
Online friends from other countries.. if they suddenly decide to stop using their current social media accounts and create a new one without informing you, that's just.. you just lose them like that. That's really heartbreaking. Forget about not being able to hang out together in real life, now you can't even talk to each other anymore.
I admit to doing that once. Just cutting off all communications and replacing my social media accounts with new ones because I couldn't fucking stand the people I used to interact with anymore.
I wonder what they thought or felt when they suddenly aren't able to reach me anymore.
I always think that others wouldn't give a shit what happened to me but now that I really think about it, that may not entirely be true.
If I've ever interacted with someone who shared similar interests, I wouldn't just forget about their existence even if we no longer talk as much as we used to. So if that person just disappeared like that without warning, I would worry about them and maybe ask around to find out what happened.
Even if our friendship ended on a bad note, I wouldn't exactly just forget about them. I'd still worry and wonder what happened, even if I no longer care about them as much as I used to.
(There may also be some people who really don't give a fuck about what happened to you.. see, this is how you can tell who is worth it and who isn't.)
Thing is.., behind the usernames and personas and online handles, there is a person who has spent time interacting with you and has come into your life (no matter how short that amount of time is). No one can overlook that. So yes, while we may not talk as much as we used to, you're still someone whom I've crossed paths with and made a connection with (no matter how small). You are someone of significance and you are someone who should decide on how much you want to matter to someone else and set out to achieve that yourself.
This not only applies to people we meet online, but people we meet offline/in real life as well.
Of course, like the sayings go, "it takes two hands to clap" / "it takes two to tango".. so don't waste all your time on trying to impress only one or two people who wouldn't give a shit about you. Spend that time on someone else who matters to you as much as you matter to them.
This is especially so if they stay in other countries.
If you meet online friends who stay in the same country, you at least have the opportunity to meet up with them and hang out together in real life.
Online friends from other countries.. if they suddenly decide to stop using their current social media accounts and create a new one without informing you, that's just.. you just lose them like that. That's really heartbreaking. Forget about not being able to hang out together in real life, now you can't even talk to each other anymore.
I admit to doing that once. Just cutting off all communications and replacing my social media accounts with new ones because I couldn't fucking stand the people I used to interact with anymore.
I wonder what they thought or felt when they suddenly aren't able to reach me anymore.
I always think that others wouldn't give a shit what happened to me but now that I really think about it, that may not entirely be true.
If I've ever interacted with someone who shared similar interests, I wouldn't just forget about their existence even if we no longer talk as much as we used to. So if that person just disappeared like that without warning, I would worry about them and maybe ask around to find out what happened.
Even if our friendship ended on a bad note, I wouldn't exactly just forget about them. I'd still worry and wonder what happened, even if I no longer care about them as much as I used to.
(There may also be some people who really don't give a fuck about what happened to you.. see, this is how you can tell who is worth it and who isn't.)
Thing is.., behind the usernames and personas and online handles, there is a person who has spent time interacting with you and has come into your life (no matter how short that amount of time is). No one can overlook that. So yes, while we may not talk as much as we used to, you're still someone whom I've crossed paths with and made a connection with (no matter how small). You are someone of significance and you are someone who should decide on how much you want to matter to someone else and set out to achieve that yourself.
This not only applies to people we meet online, but people we meet offline/in real life as well.
Of course, like the sayings go, "it takes two hands to clap" / "it takes two to tango".. so don't waste all your time on trying to impress only one or two people who wouldn't give a shit about you. Spend that time on someone else who matters to you as much as you matter to them.