A moral dilemma
I don't think I want advice, just need to write out what I feel, and it might sort it out for me.
My Mother used to have psychiatric problems, and while receiving treatment, met and befriended a much younger woman in a similar situation. After my Mother died 6 years ago I Kept friends with this woman. However, she has never been a "best friend" and I don't feel she ever could be, as she likes football, and TV and I am not keen on either. (She also is disinterested in costume, history, art, classical music......... you see my problem?)
Anyway, some months ago she rang me in a panic as she had to go into hospital, and I spent the whole day there with her, calming her down, sorting out problems, helping her prepare for the operation etc., then visiting afterwards, taking clothes for her to wear and so on. Now I have a dilemma. She has an investigative procedure taking place at the same hospital next week, and had arranged for one of her care workers to attend with her. However, when I got in from something special which happened earlier (more in a separate post) I had a call on the machine - "There is a problem with Thursday" - and I just know she is going to want me to be with her at the hospital again. I need not to do this, partly for selfish reasons, as it takes a lot out of me, and partly business - I have a lot of work to do and cannot afford a day out of the week. I think she would want me to sleep over, and she lives in a tiny apartment, with no spare bed - I can't bear the thought.
Part of me says I am being selfish, part says I am being practical, and I am putting off calling back as I don't "want" to talk to her. You see my dilemma. (My girlfriend who listens when I have a problem is presently unavailable - typical - and my DH will not be home till after work at midnight.) Bugger, bugger, bugger!!
My Mother used to have psychiatric problems, and while receiving treatment, met and befriended a much younger woman in a similar situation. After my Mother died 6 years ago I Kept friends with this woman. However, she has never been a "best friend" and I don't feel she ever could be, as she likes football, and TV and I am not keen on either. (She also is disinterested in costume, history, art, classical music......... you see my problem?)
Anyway, some months ago she rang me in a panic as she had to go into hospital, and I spent the whole day there with her, calming her down, sorting out problems, helping her prepare for the operation etc., then visiting afterwards, taking clothes for her to wear and so on. Now I have a dilemma. She has an investigative procedure taking place at the same hospital next week, and had arranged for one of her care workers to attend with her. However, when I got in from something special which happened earlier (more in a separate post) I had a call on the machine - "There is a problem with Thursday" - and I just know she is going to want me to be with her at the hospital again. I need not to do this, partly for selfish reasons, as it takes a lot out of me, and partly business - I have a lot of work to do and cannot afford a day out of the week. I think she would want me to sleep over, and she lives in a tiny apartment, with no spare bed - I can't bear the thought.
Part of me says I am being selfish, part says I am being practical, and I am putting off calling back as I don't "want" to talk to her. You see my dilemma. (My girlfriend who listens when I have a problem is presently unavailable - typical - and my DH will not be home till after work at midnight.) Bugger, bugger, bugger!!