matters of love and smoke
hey,
I've been dating this wonderful man. His name is Donovan, he's sweet, understanding, funny, sexy, nerdy and so on.. :) he makes me smile, even when we're not together. Long distance relationship, though it is, I really only have one issue with this lover of mine, he smokes cigarettes.
So? big deal! IF that's the only problem you have with him then you should consider yourself lucky.
Really? But, I worry about his health all the time. He doesn't drink alcohol any more, but he does like to smoke cigarettes and other stuff. He doesn't smoke cigarettes nearly as much when i'm with him, but what about when we're not together?
Am I supposed to silently sit by while he does this? should I say things to encourage him to quit?
I'm not a nag, and I know it's really hard to quite smoking, and he only will when he's willing and ready. But I love him and I want him to be a part of my life for a long time still. I worry that the cigarettes are going to kill him. Am I being a worry-wart? am I just being silly? I don't know..
I've waited a long time to be with a man of this caliber, and I would like him to be around for a long time still. am I being too selfish? Are there ways to encourage him to quit without pushing and nagging?
any advice?
thanks
I've been dating this wonderful man. His name is Donovan, he's sweet, understanding, funny, sexy, nerdy and so on.. :) he makes me smile, even when we're not together. Long distance relationship, though it is, I really only have one issue with this lover of mine, he smokes cigarettes.
So? big deal! IF that's the only problem you have with him then you should consider yourself lucky.
Really? But, I worry about his health all the time. He doesn't drink alcohol any more, but he does like to smoke cigarettes and other stuff. He doesn't smoke cigarettes nearly as much when i'm with him, but what about when we're not together?
Am I supposed to silently sit by while he does this? should I say things to encourage him to quit?
I'm not a nag, and I know it's really hard to quite smoking, and he only will when he's willing and ready. But I love him and I want him to be a part of my life for a long time still. I worry that the cigarettes are going to kill him. Am I being a worry-wart? am I just being silly? I don't know..
I've waited a long time to be with a man of this caliber, and I would like him to be around for a long time still. am I being too selfish? Are there ways to encourage him to quit without pushing and nagging?
any advice?
thanks