can you think of any situations for which there is an exception?
the question is vaguely worded. it made me think of both the sort of thing you're suggesting, as well as situations in which a partner is in an abusive/dysfunctional relationship and friends are trying to help them get out.
Yeah, the question was pretty vague. The first thing that came to mind in the case of having to choose would be someone actually asking me to. But if it were something like that, say an abusive relationship I'd definitely choose my friends, but that would also imply then that the significant other wasn't really my "significant" other, so much as a threat that my friends would need to be chosen over.
Exceptions otherwise are hard to think of. I guess I can't think of many situations where I'd actually have to choose. Are there any you thought of?
While I can't say that an SO who was abusive would be *my* SO, it could be someone's. So, generally speaking, that's one kind of exception.
Another example would be the reverse, where a "friend" (who isn't really a friend by any healthy definition) has behaviors and/or attitudes that an SO is not able to accept. Extreme examples would be of violent, criminal, or harassing behavior towards the SO or their children.
Those are really good examples. They're so extreme that I guess those never crossed my mind but certainly those would be good examples. Definitely in a case like that then, the choice would be I wouldn't say easier to make, because whoever I have to cut out of my life would still be painful, but it would be easier to make I guess in the sense that it would be more obvious what I have to do.
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the question is vaguely worded. it made me think of both the sort of thing you're suggesting, as well as situations in which a partner is in an abusive/dysfunctional relationship and friends are trying to help them get out.
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Exceptions otherwise are hard to think of. I guess I can't think of many situations where I'd actually have to choose. Are there any you thought of?
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Another example would be the reverse, where a "friend" (who isn't really a friend by any healthy definition) has behaviors and/or attitudes that an SO is not able to accept. Extreme examples would be of violent, criminal, or harassing behavior towards the SO or their children.
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