Finding My Colors [LJ Idol, 3 Strikes, week 1]

[joyfulfeather]

My identity as a queer person has turned out to be a lot more fluid than I expected. I used to think, you are what you are; you figure it out at some point, and that's that. You pick up your flag -- rainbow, pale pink/white/blue, bright pink/purple/blue, various combinations of green/black/white/grey, etc. -- and march merrily on. It does seem to

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[viagra]

I like the "for now at least" at the end. I think a lot of us have these sorts of feelings - I am pretty solid in where I stand right now as far as romantic and sexual attraction goes, but there was a point in my life where I was never really quite sure, and tried on lots of different things that never really quite felt right. I am personally like the reader you call out in this piece, where I find labels generally unnecessary and more stifling than comforting; I am who I am I am and I'm comfortable with who I am, so I don't really feel the need to find any particular label to describe myself and every nuance of my identity. But my feeling that way shouldn't be construed as a desire to make everyone feel that way. I think we should all live our lives in such a way that makes us comfortable, and surround ourselves with people that will understand us in the way we truly are. I like that you find comfort in being able to pinpoint things, and I like that you have the self-awareness to know that your labels can and will shift around over time. Not many people are capable of that kind of introspection. This was very thought-provoking; thank you!