Screencaps and rant, now two for the price of one

[joyful_molly]

I recently got a hold of a prehistoric document of Damian's acting career - his appearance as Dean Larke in "Holby City", back in 2004.

GALLERY HERE

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[joyful_molly]

I want to be loved and appreciated in a relationship for who I am, not for my abilities or the lack thereof to procreate. More power to those who see having children as the main reason and purpose of marriage; better discuss it before exchanging vows than afterwards. But this portrayal of infertility as something shameful, so heinous that cheating seems to be a small issue in comparision, made me rage.

As I'm not taking meds anymore, I could have children now, but I appreciate the life I have, and see no reason to turn it upside down just to spread my DNA. It's helpful that I could make that decision, rather than having it forced on me by a medical condition, but I never felt "less" of a woman, or my relationships less intense because of lack of children.

we talked about being uppity whores for wanting to have sex and men and careers and such without "paying" for it by having kids

...what planet are these people living on?! Kids are neither "payment" nor "punishment"; with that attitude they show lower respect for children than us who don't have them! Argh! Luckily, I haven't come somebody like that yet, but then, over here, people have children very late, only few of them, and not having any isn't an issue, as most people put career first.