And, also, smart, and wonderful and fun to be around. I've been thinking about you lately. If you hadn't posted you'd have gotten an e-mail from me asking to hang out because I miss you. It's actually sitting in my Draft box because I was going to write it tomorrow.
i ditto all of this (the fact that you are incredibly beautify, smart, wonderful, fun, etc.!
i also agree that it's totally luck with relationships. i lucked out with jon, and it's not work at all with him. but i also know that i am SUPER lucky to have found him.
by the way, if you don't know how beautiful you are, i have a STUNNING picture of you from our wedding which says otherwise, which i've been meaning to get you a copy of.
I miss you lots, Amy. Thanks for the sage advice. I feel at least part of my problem is that I feel isolated from friends and that lets me indulge in a great deal of negative self-talk rather than having the opportunity to verbally hash out the situation with another friend. It's hard because I don't feel like I've had exceptionally bad luck-I've never wanted for male attention-but I've just never met someone who liked me *enough* to commit to me.
Yeah -- I know what you mean. I didn't have especially bad luck in that sense either. For me, for a long time it led me into this mental trap I later dubbed the "I'm a failure" phenomenon: I thought that there was something wrong with me because "every relationship I've ever been in has failed." For a while I didn't quite realize that, as long as I was defining every relationship that ended (or rather, didn't end in marriage) as a "failure," this was by definition true of EVERY UNMARRIED PERSON despite the fact that I didn't think of most OTHER people as "failures" at relationships in the same way I was thinking of myself. But yeah, by that logic/definition, even though I did date a fair amount and didn't generally lack for attention or even reasonable happiness or other measures of "success" in my relationships, every relationship was going to be a "failure" because it was going to end (in some way other than marriage). Until I got to the one that didn't. And that was largely luck. Not because I worked harder on that relationship
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i also agree that it's totally luck with relationships. i lucked out with jon, and it's not work at all with him. but i also know that i am SUPER lucky to have found him.
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