or maybe i can wait till i'm 26, having never had a real girlfriend, or more than a hanful of dates with one girl and realize that i've missed a big chunk of my life. or better yet why dont i sell myself on the delusion that i need to focus on me and my work for a few more years cause its a lot easier to hide from what i really need that way, and then i can wake up when i'm thirty and kill myself. I didnt mean to sound too harsh in my initial post but i'm fucking tired of watching everyone else live life around me and waiting for my turn to participate, like one of those dogs tied to a meter outside watching their owners buying bagels (ok its late, that was a weird analogy) . . . i mean its easy to talk when you can walk into any club, any bar, any room and have guys and girls falling all over themselves to get to you
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"maybe you should just listen to you, and forget advice from your chick friends. you know? I have faith in you, man, I think you're gonna do good things. "
if you'll excuse me i need to go feed schroedinger's cat
you are too old to be an over-sexed teenaged boy. you really haven't missed much by not going through the mess that is normal dating, but you'll never believe that until you decide to settle for some half-assed broad for a few months who end up fucking you over royally. that is the "real relationship" goodness you have missed out on.
yeah but your can fix yourself sitting alone in your apartment, sorry, my biggest problem is lack of confidence around women and they only way i'm gonna change that is by meeting lots of women, women who like me, women who -would- be interested in going out with me, then like anything else you do, ya do it a few times successfully an ya realize 'hey, girls do like me' . . . sitting behind my computer ain't gonna do that
speaking from mild experiencetheda_bJanuary 22 2005, 17:05:13 UTC
lack of confidence is not your biggest problem, josh. your biggest problem with women is you don't know what your biggest problem is. your second biggest problem is you don't know how to read them. you don't know who likes you, who doesn't like you, who wants drag you into the bathroom for quick anonymous sex or who wants to drag you behind their car for a few miles.
you can't build real self confidence by having other people tell you they like you. i hate to get all hippie-like or blow new age white light up your ass, but it self confidence really does come from within. hence the "self." if you base your self-worth on other people's opinions, you'll collapse everytime someone shoots you down. because that's never going to stop.
negitive you cannot get self confidence from women, or by being around women.. you do need to get out of your place but i think this goes more into you loving you, not to sound too umm jillian -esqu and thats a process, because as long as you care to much about what anyone thinks your like a puppet on a string and that sucks... big time.. i would say get out, go out with friends, go out alone, go to the gym, take care of yourself, dont get to caught in the game, balance BALANCE mind body soul... the more you are happy alone the more people want to be with you, but alone DOSNT MEAN IN YOUR HOUSE it means just being you , without a label or a lover... jillian will stop now
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"maybe you should just listen to you, and forget advice from your chick friends. you know? I have faith in you, man, I think you're gonna do good things. "
if you'll excuse me i need to go feed schroedinger's cat
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what?
I gave you a headache?
which part- the giving you advice and then telling you not to take it?
ha!
dood. DON'T OPEN THE BOX!
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I dunno.
I just meant that it really doesn't matter what I think- you got a good brain and heart. follow em!
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you are too old to be an over-sexed teenaged boy. you really haven't missed much by not going through the mess that is normal dating, but you'll never believe that until you decide to settle for some half-assed broad for a few months who end up fucking you over royally. that is the "real relationship" goodness you have missed out on.
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Um... Nico thinks so, too, and she's only 6 months old.
It's nice not to have to sort out your shit alone, but face it: most people just suck so much worse than being alone.
Here's the catch: if you don't fix you, you'll never attract the person you think you need to fix you.
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you can't build real self confidence by having other people tell you they like you. i hate to get all hippie-like or blow new age white light up your ass, but it self confidence really does come from within. hence the "self." if you base your self-worth on other people's opinions, you'll collapse everytime someone shoots you down. because that's never going to stop.
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fuck it,
i give up
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you do need to get out of your place but i think this goes more into you loving you, not to sound too umm jillian -esqu
and thats a process, because as long as you care to much about what anyone thinks your like a puppet on a string and that sucks... big time..
i would say get out, go out with friends, go out alone, go to the gym, take care of yourself, dont get to caught in the game, balance
BALANCE mind body soul...
the more you are happy alone the more people want to be with you, but alone DOSNT MEAN IN YOUR HOUSE it means just being you , without a label or a lover...
jillian will stop now
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