Excerpt #3001
https://www.forbes.com/2011/04/26/values-based-leadership.html?sh=432ab131652b
The major steps to being a value-based leader seem hinged upon the notion that a leader needs to be aware of more than themselves. A leader must be aware of themselves enough, to understand how a self behaves in an environment. Then, to understand others, a leader needs to also understand how multiple people interact in an environment. Finally, a leader needs to understand the environment itself, and how to change it to adjust for success. This article crosses back and forth across this concept using different words, but I'd like to propose this is really what they are getting at. I'd say perhaps, humility is the most important part of this all.
If we see ourselves as winning or losing, rather than as part of a greater process which is happening or not happening, we will ruin every process for the sake of ourselves.
Not every leader must be a leader all the time, and not every leader must lead everything there is to lead! I see leadership as typically a temporary position a person is thrust into out of the necessity of the group. So to try to hard to be "a leader" would also represent a form of vanity perhaps.