Ranty Joreth Is Ranty
I am really fucking irritated at people who say "relax, it's not a big deal" when someone complains about something* that bothers them. Either:
1) It is a fucking big deal or they wouldn't have complained, and you just dismissed their concerns as unimportant.
or
2) Of course it's not a big deal, that's why they just bitched about it instead of calling ( Read more... )
1) It is a fucking big deal or they wouldn't have complained, and you just dismissed their concerns as unimportant.
or
2) Of course it's not a big deal, that's why they just bitched about it instead of calling ( Read more... )
anytime someone does this to me it smacks of pure insensitivity and laziness (or indifference), and it speaks volumes at their level of commitment and investment in the friendship/relationship. overall, it's a commentary on the state of empathy in our society...something that is profoundly lacking in my opinion. people are so caught up in a "what's in it for me?" mentality that they fail to realize how rewarding it is to simply be there for someone in need by listening wholeheartedly. one of my favorites quotes that speaks to this is:
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”
―Henri J.M. Nouwen
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