I'm reading a book right now and there's a recurring theme that's pissing me off. The reason it's pissing me off is because I see this same theme in society around me, and it happens to be an extremely personal issue. The issue is adoption
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The grandmother finally wised up only after she was told that the grandchild WAS her natural grandchild. The husband had an affair, knocked some woman up, the woman died, and the husband took in the baby. The wife, the one who was cheated on, embraced the child, loved her, raised her as her own because 1) she was an innocent child and 2) she was part of her husband, whom she had now lost.
I get the message they were trying to send - that the old woman was a bitch and children shouldn't be treated like that. But the old woman never actually learned her lesson, because she only accepted the child as "hers" when she learned they shared genetic material. She never came around to believing that the grandchild was worthy of love just for being a child.
I have to say, though, that the wife came out of the whole mess looking like a damn fine admirable woman, and the film gave her all the credit for being an admirable woman.
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The children raised by my siblings are part of my extended family. The details of how those families formed isn't as significant as that those families formed.
I think this meme is weakening a little though. The frequency of step-families without portraying any step-family members as evil helps. My nieces and nephew not through blood are through marriage. I think that's pretty common. As more people get the experience of non-blood relatives somewhere in their family, whether through marriage or adoption, it helps them realize that that is just as meaningful.
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