Thank you for recommending this movie! We loved it! I didn't read the spoilers beforehand, but I read them now and I felt the exact same thing -- the movie turned decisively poly at the "Will you be the second father of my child?" I also liked especially that both parents turned out to be quite smart, and not at all as conservative as we thought. They're real people, not just there for comedy.
One remark: the sex that Wai Tung and Wei Wei had. Imagine the same story, with the genders reversed. Imagine a lesbian girl trying to hide it from the parents, marrying a guy who carries a torch for her, etc. etc. And then in their wedding bed, he begins to make love with her, despite her clearly voiced objections, saying "I'm liberating you". What would we call this guy?
I'm not saying that Wei Wei is a rapist. All I'm saying is that it's interesting to see the double standard in our perception of such things. When a woman does it, it's called seduction. When a man does the same, it's called sexual assault. Just wanted to point it out.
That is a very good point, and although I used the word seduction, my feelings about the scene were none too pleasant. I intensely disliked her for that, I thought she was completely in the wrong, and I felt bad for Wai_Tung.
So, you're right, assault could have been (and possibly should have been) used in that place. I certainly felt the same towards Wei-Wei as I would have had the genders been reversed, even though I used a much softer word.
I finally figured out why I have been bothered by your comment that seemed to imply a gender double-standard and why it kept sticking in my mind so long after you posted this
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I also liked especially that both parents turned out to be quite smart, and not at all as conservative as we thought. They're real people, not just there for comedy.
One remark: the sex that Wai Tung and Wei Wei had. Imagine the same story, with the genders reversed. Imagine a lesbian girl trying to hide it from the parents, marrying a guy who carries a torch for her, etc. etc. And then in their wedding bed, he begins to make love with her, despite her clearly voiced objections, saying "I'm liberating you". What would we call this guy?
I'm not saying that Wei Wei is a rapist. All I'm saying is that it's interesting to see the double standard in our perception of such things. When a woman does it, it's called seduction. When a man does the same, it's called sexual assault. Just wanted to point it out.
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So, you're right, assault could have been (and possibly should have been) used in that place. I certainly felt the same towards Wei-Wei as I would have had the genders been reversed, even though I used a much softer word.
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