child pageants - hazard to kids?
So.
I've never been in a beauty pageant. I've never wanted to be in a beauty pageant and so I guess that colours my perceptions just a little bit. Anyway - I'm trying to watch Dr. Phil. This episode is about a pageant mom who dressed her kid up like the Julie Andrews prostitute character from Little Woman. I've seen that movie, and I know it's a pretty iconic roll for JA. The outfit, didn't look at all revealing to me. You saw a bit of midriff and some knee. Oh whoop de do!
I've seen far more revealing outfits on the show Toddlers and Tiara's.
While I understand that this Mom just wanted to do something kinda cute, I can also understand why some people would get upset. In our society, prostitution isn't a good thing. It's never been a good thing, even in Roman society. You can look at historically, but I'm sure some Roman Prostututes ended up just as dead as our modern ones.
But, that's not the point of this post. It's simply background.
I want to know why we dress little kids up and put them on stage for other people to watch. I mean, sure, you've got all the pageant families, but what about those people who aren't there for the innocent fun these things are supposed to be?
I'm not saying that all pageants have child molesters in attendance. I'm just wondering about what sort of idiocy it takes to do this to your kid? I wouldn't want anyone ogling my kid. Not even a Mom sizing up the competition. Normal kids who don't do these things get kidnapped and killed, and let's not mention the Ramsey case. That one still hasn't been solved and I remember that from when I was a kid.
THey say they don't sexualize their kids, and some of the dresses are tasteful but then some times they aren't. And I have to wonder at the rules of the pageant to allow such things. I mean, should't there be a skirt length requirement just like they've got at high schools. If the skirt is shorter than your finger tips you have to change? Why can't we have that at the pageant and then rules that everyone has to measure and record?
Is that a bit communist?
Yeah maybe.
And I won't even try to justify that. After all, it's the safety of the future we're talking about.
Well, to go on to another subject.
Do these little kids even want to be in the pageants?
I think they just parrot stuff their parents repeat in conversations. I don't think any of the kids thing "man, I really want to do that," - they're kids. If their Mom say's "oh, honey, let's do this. It'll be fun," well...they're going to go along for the ride.
The competition is fierce, the sort of fierce that belongs on America's Next Top Model, not amongst kids who go on stage, get told they're gonna win, and then loose. And I don't mean "oh here's a ribbon for you're effort," I mean total loss. Like, Mr. T beating the shit out of Rocky sort of loss.
Now. I will say that kids should learn that they aren't going to win every time, that sometimes they will loose. But, the point is to have fun. Forget about winning or loosing. As long as you do your best, you're awesome int he eyes of your family.
That's what isn't being taught in these kid pageants. It's not taught in our society. A bunch of kids get together for soft ball, but neither team wins, they all get ribbons and there isn't a score. That's just lame. That's not teaching your kids the rules of life.
In life you either win or loose.
But while your kid is growing up, I suppose sugar coating it is all right. I mean, I was sheltered as a kid. I never heard the f-word until I started working, and I was nineteen. The first time I heard it I looked like a dear in the headlights, and gasped and then said something along the lines of "What would your mother think hearing you talk like that?"
And now, here I am writing smut.
Hmmmm.....I'm not a good advocate for this, am I?
Well -
If my kid ever wants to do beauty pageants, I suppose I'll let her. But I'm conservative, she's going to educate herself on it and we're going to have boundaries. I know that sex sells, but damn it, it's about beauty not about how sexual you are.
In Japan, they love an illusion to nudity. That's why you'll see all the models dressed. Even if it's a short skirt or a short dress or whatever, it's the illusion to the sex that's important. Not the fact that the Model is wearing strips of fabric over her nipples and private parts. With the second example, you don't have to use your imagination. Well, I don't because I've got boobs and they're just as pretty as the next woman's boobs.
We see this more in our culture, the less clothing the better, unless you're Ross, or Target. And that's like a stipulation. I put some pervoacative photos on my DA, and yeah I got some guys looking.
The funniest thing though was that I posted pics of my feet. Just my feet. And I got more "sex" comments on those pics than I did any that illuded to nudity, or just a peak of my boobs or butt.
I'm Conservative - so I really shouldn't be putting up such pics of myself - but, the point I am trying to make here is that sex is different to different people. While I just put my feet pics up as a joke, people actually took it seriously. I don't know if anyone is wank-ing off to them or not, but, I honestly don't care.
I didn't put myself at risk by posting any of those pics. And, I never used my real name anyway - so if an employer does look me up. They can't even see my Facebook so why worry about pics of my feet and other cosplaying photo's. I made sure I was covered. I just wanted the illusion to the sex.
And this whole post has gotten so off topic. I might as well call it a bit of rambling. I just don't like kid pageants. I thinkt he parents are fucking bat shit crazy. I think they aren't teaching their kids life skills. I don't think it's about building self esteem. I think it's building self loathing.
I don't look in the mirror and see a pretty woman.
But, I'm critical of the way I look.
I think those beauty people take it far too literally, and I don't think they ever feel confident in the way they look, because you can't just be at a healthy weight, you have so much competition that even if you hated spray tanning - you'd do it just because the competition is doing it and if you don't you look like a looser and everyone is gonna point and laugh at you about it.
Okay - I know that opinion is wrong int he pageant world. I can't tell you how many pageant Mom's and their kids say its the best thing to boost self confidence. I call that bullshit.
Not because I'm jealous. I'm not. I've never had a passion for it and I'd never put my toddlers in a beauty pageant. If they grow up and they want to do it, well, fine, but I hope they do it just for fun. Not because they feel bad about themselves. Shit, I had self esteem issues and I took Tae Kwon Do.
And that, helped me more than a beauty pageant because a beauty pageant would have torn the remaining self esteem I had into pieces.
Well...I THINK everyone is beautiful in their own ways and it comes from the inside, not the outside. The outside doesn't last. You won't be pretty for ever and so what if you fucking Queen of the Universe, I still wouldn't give a shit.
I've never been in a beauty pageant. I've never wanted to be in a beauty pageant and so I guess that colours my perceptions just a little bit. Anyway - I'm trying to watch Dr. Phil. This episode is about a pageant mom who dressed her kid up like the Julie Andrews prostitute character from Little Woman. I've seen that movie, and I know it's a pretty iconic roll for JA. The outfit, didn't look at all revealing to me. You saw a bit of midriff and some knee. Oh whoop de do!
I've seen far more revealing outfits on the show Toddlers and Tiara's.
While I understand that this Mom just wanted to do something kinda cute, I can also understand why some people would get upset. In our society, prostitution isn't a good thing. It's never been a good thing, even in Roman society. You can look at historically, but I'm sure some Roman Prostututes ended up just as dead as our modern ones.
But, that's not the point of this post. It's simply background.
I want to know why we dress little kids up and put them on stage for other people to watch. I mean, sure, you've got all the pageant families, but what about those people who aren't there for the innocent fun these things are supposed to be?
I'm not saying that all pageants have child molesters in attendance. I'm just wondering about what sort of idiocy it takes to do this to your kid? I wouldn't want anyone ogling my kid. Not even a Mom sizing up the competition. Normal kids who don't do these things get kidnapped and killed, and let's not mention the Ramsey case. That one still hasn't been solved and I remember that from when I was a kid.
THey say they don't sexualize their kids, and some of the dresses are tasteful but then some times they aren't. And I have to wonder at the rules of the pageant to allow such things. I mean, should't there be a skirt length requirement just like they've got at high schools. If the skirt is shorter than your finger tips you have to change? Why can't we have that at the pageant and then rules that everyone has to measure and record?
Is that a bit communist?
Yeah maybe.
And I won't even try to justify that. After all, it's the safety of the future we're talking about.
Well, to go on to another subject.
Do these little kids even want to be in the pageants?
I think they just parrot stuff their parents repeat in conversations. I don't think any of the kids thing "man, I really want to do that," - they're kids. If their Mom say's "oh, honey, let's do this. It'll be fun," well...they're going to go along for the ride.
The competition is fierce, the sort of fierce that belongs on America's Next Top Model, not amongst kids who go on stage, get told they're gonna win, and then loose. And I don't mean "oh here's a ribbon for you're effort," I mean total loss. Like, Mr. T beating the shit out of Rocky sort of loss.
Now. I will say that kids should learn that they aren't going to win every time, that sometimes they will loose. But, the point is to have fun. Forget about winning or loosing. As long as you do your best, you're awesome int he eyes of your family.
That's what isn't being taught in these kid pageants. It's not taught in our society. A bunch of kids get together for soft ball, but neither team wins, they all get ribbons and there isn't a score. That's just lame. That's not teaching your kids the rules of life.
In life you either win or loose.
But while your kid is growing up, I suppose sugar coating it is all right. I mean, I was sheltered as a kid. I never heard the f-word until I started working, and I was nineteen. The first time I heard it I looked like a dear in the headlights, and gasped and then said something along the lines of "What would your mother think hearing you talk like that?"
And now, here I am writing smut.
Hmmmm.....I'm not a good advocate for this, am I?
Well -
If my kid ever wants to do beauty pageants, I suppose I'll let her. But I'm conservative, she's going to educate herself on it and we're going to have boundaries. I know that sex sells, but damn it, it's about beauty not about how sexual you are.
In Japan, they love an illusion to nudity. That's why you'll see all the models dressed. Even if it's a short skirt or a short dress or whatever, it's the illusion to the sex that's important. Not the fact that the Model is wearing strips of fabric over her nipples and private parts. With the second example, you don't have to use your imagination. Well, I don't because I've got boobs and they're just as pretty as the next woman's boobs.
We see this more in our culture, the less clothing the better, unless you're Ross, or Target. And that's like a stipulation. I put some pervoacative photos on my DA, and yeah I got some guys looking.
The funniest thing though was that I posted pics of my feet. Just my feet. And I got more "sex" comments on those pics than I did any that illuded to nudity, or just a peak of my boobs or butt.
I'm Conservative - so I really shouldn't be putting up such pics of myself - but, the point I am trying to make here is that sex is different to different people. While I just put my feet pics up as a joke, people actually took it seriously. I don't know if anyone is wank-ing off to them or not, but, I honestly don't care.
I didn't put myself at risk by posting any of those pics. And, I never used my real name anyway - so if an employer does look me up. They can't even see my Facebook so why worry about pics of my feet and other cosplaying photo's. I made sure I was covered. I just wanted the illusion to the sex.
And this whole post has gotten so off topic. I might as well call it a bit of rambling. I just don't like kid pageants. I thinkt he parents are fucking bat shit crazy. I think they aren't teaching their kids life skills. I don't think it's about building self esteem. I think it's building self loathing.
I don't look in the mirror and see a pretty woman.
But, I'm critical of the way I look.
I think those beauty people take it far too literally, and I don't think they ever feel confident in the way they look, because you can't just be at a healthy weight, you have so much competition that even if you hated spray tanning - you'd do it just because the competition is doing it and if you don't you look like a looser and everyone is gonna point and laugh at you about it.
Okay - I know that opinion is wrong int he pageant world. I can't tell you how many pageant Mom's and their kids say its the best thing to boost self confidence. I call that bullshit.
Not because I'm jealous. I'm not. I've never had a passion for it and I'd never put my toddlers in a beauty pageant. If they grow up and they want to do it, well, fine, but I hope they do it just for fun. Not because they feel bad about themselves. Shit, I had self esteem issues and I took Tae Kwon Do.
And that, helped me more than a beauty pageant because a beauty pageant would have torn the remaining self esteem I had into pieces.
Well...I THINK everyone is beautiful in their own ways and it comes from the inside, not the outside. The outside doesn't last. You won't be pretty for ever and so what if you fucking Queen of the Universe, I still wouldn't give a shit.