Nov 11, 2007 04:14
because apparently you guys didnt get the Minardi-Ross monthly newsletter. Ryan. Left. Me. He asked for the divorce and I gave it to him. Im sorry that some of you see this as a bad decision, but Im not going to force him to be in any kind of relationship with me. I love him. Ive loved him since our very first kiss on the beach 3 months ago, and goddamnit, despite anything he did/does/will do, i will always love him. I cant stop loving him and I sure as hell dont want to stop loving him. I found my soul mate in him. He is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and raise our children with. When I said my vows over 2 months ago, I meant them, every single word. I will mean them and uphold them till the day I die.
Some of you, more like many/most of you think that I am a horrible person, well, frankly, most of you dont know me. You base your opinion on what other people have said about me. You havent come and actually talked to me and no one has ever asked for my side of the story. All you see is that Ryan is a child. A 21 year old little boy that has given up his youth to raise three babies on his own. You dont see what Ive seen. You dont know that Ryan was the one to take the fertility drugs, behind my back. I wanted to let our family come on God's time, not by some miracle drug. But my babies are here and I wouldnt trade them for the world, I thank god every day for them. You also dont see the toll that your gossip and shit talking has taken on our family. Ryan is broken and yes, I am partialy to blame, but half of you people should man up to it as well. You have pulled him into so many directions, he never knew what was up or what was down. Now, as a result of that, he is a frail little boy and instead of three babies, I have four. I have four tiny people to raise and take care of because I am a damn good father and a damn good friend and a damn good husband.
I have our babies. Its 4 in the fucking morning and I havent slept in 48 hours because Ive been taking care of them by myself. No one sleeps at the same time around here. Joey likes a bottle at 2 and just when I finally get him back to sleep, Cory or Sophie start up, sometimes both, once they are fed and put back to sleep, Joe wakes up again and needs to be changed. Im doing my best. Im doing what I know to do. Im doing what my instinct tells me to do and thats to look after my family, provide them with the best. and on top of all of this providing for my children and raising them, Im starting a company, which my best friend Tony is on tour and cant help me start it even though its our company. in 13 days our website will be launched and we'll annouce a few bands we're signing to FBR and between the babies and Snakes and Suits, Im also doing my best to get Ryan to seek professional help because Im not strong enough to handle all of this on my own. He needs time to heal, we all do. We are all Minardi's and we will all get through this. As Kanye said, that what does not kill me, can only make me stronger.
I dont want your sympathy. I dont want your pity. I dont care if you keep on with your shit talking behind my back. I dont care about anything anymore. If you people want to continue to stand off and be stuck in your ways, well, thats between you and your maker. My children know that I am a good father and a good person and Im going to raise them the best way I know how and I am going to do everything humanly possible to help my husband. Because I was born to love these four people, Ryan, Cory, Sophie and Joey. I will continue to love them, till the day I die.
-John Joseph Minardi
ps; if you really have something to say to me, go ahead. Im not afraid to answer to anyone. and Im not afraid to make new, true friends.