Control Freak
It was recently pointed out to me that I am a control freak - or perhaps more charitably, someone with unrealistic expectations for myself and others. This was a bit of a surprise to me because so much of my day to day life is rather chaotic - I am a bit ADD (perhaps a lot) so I tend to have the most success at tasks if I do a number of them in bits and pieces throughout the day with lots of time built in for 'other things.' I have to concede the basic point though - by trying to set limits or goals for everyone and everything around me - I am trying to exert some control and be 'safe.' Though its not my experience now - in my 30's and 40's, my early childhood taught me (as a weird little boy often at odds with others) that people are the primary source of pain in my life. I wonder now if my (continuing) fascination with caves, hidden passageways, tanks, armor and castles isn't just me checking out my protection strategies :>