Summer in western NY
Had a silly and mostly pointless dream about a girl I went to Elementary school with. She and I were hanging out catching up...and that's about it. Boring dream, but now I wonder what she's been up to. I had a few classes with her. Kindergarten, 1st and 4th grade for sure and maybe 3rd grade too...I can't remember. Anyway, her name was Brandy and she was my first girlfriend. We didn't even have each other's phone number. We just played together on the playground and snuck off to kiss in the coat room. We "dated" for about a week in 4th grade too, actually exchanging phone numbers this time, but neither of us felt anything for each other by that point, so it just kind of fizzled out.
I remember that it kind of taught me a lot about relationships with the opposite sex. Here was this girl, who I thought was cool and cute, who I had a previous relationship with, but I just only liked her as a friend. It was weird to me at the time. I played with girls in school and in my neighborhood, but this was the first time I realized that Brandy and I worked as friends, but not anything else. I'm sure she felt the same way, because I remember talking on the phone with her and both of us kind of realizing we didn't have any feelings for each other. Plus, we were totally cool after we decided to just be friends.
I had another friend like that in 6th grade too. Same situation, except that we didn't kiss in the coat room or any of that. Just a cool person who I would call or she would call me and we'd meet in the middle of town at "the wooden playground," hang out for a few hours and then go home. I know this doesn't and shouldn't sound remarkable in anyway. But I still believe that society don't really expect for men and women to be friends. There's always an underlying tension there. And I was proud, because when I brought up to guy friends that I hung out with this girl, they'd always ask what was up. "Did you kiss her?" "Why not?" "Oh, so she's a prude, huh?" I was proud that she and I were just friends and that I was able to have that kind of relationship with a girl when so many other boys were just dudes, you know?
And by the way, Myles: that 6th grade girl was Brigid Griffin. She had the coolest signature, check your yearbook! UPES, motherfucker!
I remember that it kind of taught me a lot about relationships with the opposite sex. Here was this girl, who I thought was cool and cute, who I had a previous relationship with, but I just only liked her as a friend. It was weird to me at the time. I played with girls in school and in my neighborhood, but this was the first time I realized that Brandy and I worked as friends, but not anything else. I'm sure she felt the same way, because I remember talking on the phone with her and both of us kind of realizing we didn't have any feelings for each other. Plus, we were totally cool after we decided to just be friends.
I had another friend like that in 6th grade too. Same situation, except that we didn't kiss in the coat room or any of that. Just a cool person who I would call or she would call me and we'd meet in the middle of town at "the wooden playground," hang out for a few hours and then go home. I know this doesn't and shouldn't sound remarkable in anyway. But I still believe that society don't really expect for men and women to be friends. There's always an underlying tension there. And I was proud, because when I brought up to guy friends that I hung out with this girl, they'd always ask what was up. "Did you kiss her?" "Why not?" "Oh, so she's a prude, huh?" I was proud that she and I were just friends and that I was able to have that kind of relationship with a girl when so many other boys were just dudes, you know?
And by the way, Myles: that 6th grade girl was Brigid Griffin. She had the coolest signature, check your yearbook! UPES, motherfucker!