Honesty
Over the past few days I'm coming to the realization that honesty is the best policy and that too much honesty isn't a bad thing where relationships are concerned. Forgive me for my idealism but here's what I think.
Your partner is supposed to be your best friend. Think about who your best friend is. Do you tell them everything?
That's a switch from how I used to think. That's a huge switch.
Over the past few days, my husband has shown me patience, control, and what a commitment in a relationship is all about. We both played a role in where we are right now and we're both feeling feelings we're not sure how to classify. That's okay because we're going through this and finding our way together.
Yes, it hurts me that I hurt him with what I did. It killed me to see his face when I told him the truth. What he was unintentionally doing was hurting me as well but I operated too long in silence and with that silence came doubt, suspicion, and anger. I could have asked two simple questions to avoid this entire situation but I didn't.
A very good friend of mine pointed out that I seem to be transitioning into the next level of adulthood. I'm planning for the future. I'm asking some hard questions of myself and those around me. I'm re-evaluating where I am right now. The real, honest, questions hurt a little bit. Especially when I know what the answer is but don't want to admit it to myself. I'm still working through my re-evaluation of where I am with my job, religion, and place in this world... but the one thing I am going to change right now is honesty in my relationship. 100%. Count on it.
Your partner is supposed to be your best friend. Think about who your best friend is. Do you tell them everything?
- You look hideous in that dress.
- Oh, really? Those shoes? Stop it. Stop it, right now.
- Seriously, though. You really could do a whole lot better. Here, have another shot. Go in the alley, get it over with, and move on.
That's a switch from how I used to think. That's a huge switch.
Over the past few days, my husband has shown me patience, control, and what a commitment in a relationship is all about. We both played a role in where we are right now and we're both feeling feelings we're not sure how to classify. That's okay because we're going through this and finding our way together.
Yes, it hurts me that I hurt him with what I did. It killed me to see his face when I told him the truth. What he was unintentionally doing was hurting me as well but I operated too long in silence and with that silence came doubt, suspicion, and anger. I could have asked two simple questions to avoid this entire situation but I didn't.
A very good friend of mine pointed out that I seem to be transitioning into the next level of adulthood. I'm planning for the future. I'm asking some hard questions of myself and those around me. I'm re-evaluating where I am right now. The real, honest, questions hurt a little bit. Especially when I know what the answer is but don't want to admit it to myself. I'm still working through my re-evaluation of where I am with my job, religion, and place in this world... but the one thing I am going to change right now is honesty in my relationship. 100%. Count on it.