Okay, time to see where they lead:
Observation : downing the shot at Cantina de mi Amigo
Feelings associated with said observation:
- regret at the percieved disappointment in my friend
- sadness that he wasn't able to share this awesome concoction with others (it was quite good)
- diappointment that I hadn't heard his indication that it was a "sip and pass" situation
- embarrasment that I had repayed his generocity with what I judged to be rudeness
Needs associated with above feelings:
- Regret: I need to contribute to the lives of my friends.
- Sadness: I want the sense of community a shared celebration brings.
- Disappointment: I need to hear my friends, and understand them when they communicate.
- Embarrasment: I want to show my appreciation for the generous natures of mis amigos.
Observation: missing the music concert of a lifetime with the one I Love
- Disappointed that I was unable to explain my reasoning for not wanting to go in a way my Love would understand
- Remorseful that I missed such a (by her and other's judgements) wonderful experience
- Sad that I was unable to let go of my stubborness in the moment.
Needs associated with above feelings:
- Disappointment: I need to make myself understood to those I love.
- Remorse: I love the closeness that such adventures create between my Love and I.
- Sadness: I need to have easy commnication between me and my Beloved.
Coming up next: Strategies to help me meet these unmet needs of mine; things that will hopefully make life wonderful for me and them.