Men in New York....I don't get it...literally....
Well...as promised here is my first installment about the Men of New York.
Well, I have been here for about a month and already I've observed a good bit about the whole dating process. First, let me start by saying that I have not done anything at all...not even a date. It's interesting as most of my friends either have boyfriends or partners so I inadvertently feel a little bit of pressure to date. I don't think I've ever been in a situation (at least not in a long time) where I've felt any pressure at all. It's sort of like being the third wheel or something. I've never been one for the casual "hook up" so for me, dating is my poison of choice. Don't get me wrong...I've been hit on and there have been guys that have shown interest in me...I don't know...maybe I'm too damn picky. Maybe that's not such a bad thing. There have been 2 guys that I've been interested in...one is in a year and 1/2 relationship and the other is just recently out of a relationship so he's "unavailable" emotionally.
So you think they look like signs to you too? Something telling me I should be focusing on other things...well, yeah...I know that. I should be focusing on why I'm here...to try to have a singing career and that's what I'm doing but to be honest, it can be VERY lonely and easy to feel like you are alone...even while in a huge city like New York. Everyone likes to feel wanted or needed. I am no exception. I don't know why I've been feeling this way and I've been trying to not let it get me down. Maybe I still need to learn the way men date here.
From what I've heard the dating process is as past paced as everyday life. There are people that date in the traditional way but they usually aren't from here originally. An outsider looking in might consider the dating patterns here as something just past the typical "hook up". Guys here will hook up with someone but instead of it being a one night stand they actually date for a couple of weeks and THEN move on to the next person. People are definitely more open about sex in general here. People like sex and aren't afraid to tell you...or show you...or even put on a show for you. It's kind of odd at first but you really do get used to it where you don't think twice about it anymore. Like I said before...I don't know.
This is all really new to me and I'm not looking to get married or just to have sex. In the back of my mind I've always thought that I would be alone. Hell, who wants to be partnered with a singer/performer who is never home....always in rehearsals or working trying to survive and make something of himself...never having time to put into a relationship? It's not easy making a relationship work when most of the time one person sits at home alone. Wow...I didn't think this update would go in this direction at all so perhaps I'll stop now while I'm ahead!
I will write more soon!
I hope everyone is doing well and please feel free to comment or reply! Many hugs to all!
Well, I have been here for about a month and already I've observed a good bit about the whole dating process. First, let me start by saying that I have not done anything at all...not even a date. It's interesting as most of my friends either have boyfriends or partners so I inadvertently feel a little bit of pressure to date. I don't think I've ever been in a situation (at least not in a long time) where I've felt any pressure at all. It's sort of like being the third wheel or something. I've never been one for the casual "hook up" so for me, dating is my poison of choice. Don't get me wrong...I've been hit on and there have been guys that have shown interest in me...I don't know...maybe I'm too damn picky. Maybe that's not such a bad thing. There have been 2 guys that I've been interested in...one is in a year and 1/2 relationship and the other is just recently out of a relationship so he's "unavailable" emotionally.
So you think they look like signs to you too? Something telling me I should be focusing on other things...well, yeah...I know that. I should be focusing on why I'm here...to try to have a singing career and that's what I'm doing but to be honest, it can be VERY lonely and easy to feel like you are alone...even while in a huge city like New York. Everyone likes to feel wanted or needed. I am no exception. I don't know why I've been feeling this way and I've been trying to not let it get me down. Maybe I still need to learn the way men date here.
From what I've heard the dating process is as past paced as everyday life. There are people that date in the traditional way but they usually aren't from here originally. An outsider looking in might consider the dating patterns here as something just past the typical "hook up". Guys here will hook up with someone but instead of it being a one night stand they actually date for a couple of weeks and THEN move on to the next person. People are definitely more open about sex in general here. People like sex and aren't afraid to tell you...or show you...or even put on a show for you. It's kind of odd at first but you really do get used to it where you don't think twice about it anymore. Like I said before...I don't know.
This is all really new to me and I'm not looking to get married or just to have sex. In the back of my mind I've always thought that I would be alone. Hell, who wants to be partnered with a singer/performer who is never home....always in rehearsals or working trying to survive and make something of himself...never having time to put into a relationship? It's not easy making a relationship work when most of the time one person sits at home alone. Wow...I didn't think this update would go in this direction at all so perhaps I'll stop now while I'm ahead!
I will write more soon!
I hope everyone is doing well and please feel free to comment or reply! Many hugs to all!