cut.
I was watching an episode of the 'Real Housewives of Orange County' the other day and there was this one part when all of the women were out eating dinner somewhere and all of the women but one were talking about their children and one women was talking about her finance who was diagnosed with Leukemia and then one women loudly shouted 'cut.' All the women turned and looked at this women as if she were growing a third tit right in front of their faces in disbelief. She proudly said that she didn't want to talk about children or cancer or anything like that. She just wanted to enjoy her time with the ladies without having to talk about all the stuff going on back at home.
Today I very politely declined to sit with a whole group of RAs in the cafe because I knew the conversation would be about FRAS, the job or involve talking shit about another RA. I've been an RA for too long now to worry about what people are doing or saying or whatever. I just don't care. When I'm out, I don't want to have to worry or think about whats awaiting me when I return to my room. One thing that I am just now learning is although being an RA is a 24/7 position, it doesn't define who we are as people.
So if I don't want to sit around a table and comiserate on my free time then don't talk shit. Just understand that there are more things to life then being an RA and all the stupid shit that comes along with it.
I think this has something to do with why I've been so distant with many people lately. I know that the only thing that binds us is the work that we do. Aside from that, I don't really know the person. I know they do great bulletin boards or awesome programs or have crazy awesome communities but I don't know what makes that person unique. Nor do I really care anymore. I've been around the block too many times to know that once you leave this job, you leave so many of your "friendships" behind. And truthfull, I'm really ok with that because the people who have taken the time to get to know me and vice-versa are the people that I'll keep around and continue to talk to.
Its like what the housewife said, 'CUT!"
Today I very politely declined to sit with a whole group of RAs in the cafe because I knew the conversation would be about FRAS, the job or involve talking shit about another RA. I've been an RA for too long now to worry about what people are doing or saying or whatever. I just don't care. When I'm out, I don't want to have to worry or think about whats awaiting me when I return to my room. One thing that I am just now learning is although being an RA is a 24/7 position, it doesn't define who we are as people.
So if I don't want to sit around a table and comiserate on my free time then don't talk shit. Just understand that there are more things to life then being an RA and all the stupid shit that comes along with it.
I think this has something to do with why I've been so distant with many people lately. I know that the only thing that binds us is the work that we do. Aside from that, I don't really know the person. I know they do great bulletin boards or awesome programs or have crazy awesome communities but I don't know what makes that person unique. Nor do I really care anymore. I've been around the block too many times to know that once you leave this job, you leave so many of your "friendships" behind. And truthfull, I'm really ok with that because the people who have taken the time to get to know me and vice-versa are the people that I'll keep around and continue to talk to.
Its like what the housewife said, 'CUT!"