the limits of knowing
But first: Does anyone want the three special EW True Blood covers? I got them free at work and am happy to ship out to someone who'd want all three. It's Anna Paquin with Moyer, Skarsgard and Manganiello in poses like American Gothic
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That's a really good point about entitlement! I hadn't thought about it that way before. I've gotten so used to people yammering away on tumblr without any kind of context that I've just put the onus on myself (or just judged myself as an Unfortunate Outsider). But I don't actually have an obligation to know what other people are talking about, even if they're in a chummy Inner Circle of Knowing (or assume they are). I tried not to be like that even when I was in a chummy Inner Circle of Knowing.
I am also totally okay with people asking me what I'm talking about, and I try not to make cryptic posts because I find them annoying.
I think I need to be better about not following people who make me feel judged by the way that they present themselves (you know, personal taste as high standards, silent disapproval, that sort of thing). I don't often unfollow/defriend because I do think these people are kind and cool and interesting, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that affect per se, but it can get under my skin and make me feel like I'm Doing Things Wrong. (Also I did unfollow someone not long ago and it went about as spectacularly badly as you worry that it will and everyone reassures you that it won't.) There are definitely people on tumblr who I feel like, if I asked them what they're talking about, don't answer me, or make me feel like I shouldn't ask. Which is weird, when they're posting in a public place.
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