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Hey it's my first update in like......months. But it really isn't XD So if you're not minjopapi or kyungjae94 please don't read this. This is a personal thing and I don't need other people sticking their noses into my or my real life friends' problems. This is our own business and not yours. Thank you.
I don't want to seem biased or give off that vibe but after reading Ashley's response, I agree with all of what she has said. I have my own points to make but what she said is basically sums up what I want to say. But I'll go into more detail for you Danielle so you can see I'm not just agreeing with her.
1). I know I don't hang out with you as much as I used to and I acknowledge that completely. I promise I will try to work on that in the near future and try my best at it.
2). For my birthday: I honestly appreciated what you said to me. It meant a lot to me and I found it cute, cheesy, and adorable. And I knew you were speaking from the heart. I didn't think any less of yours when I read Ashley's. In her's though she just praised me a lot and it made me tear up a bit is all. I'm not saying either one is better, just both provoked a different emotion out of me in how I appreciated them.
3). I don't want you to hurt yourself over issues like these because of me and who I hang out with. It's just stupid to even think about wanting to do that in my opinion. No good will come out of it at all. Because I honestly have those feelings of not wanting to ever be alone and lose you guys despite not showing it one bit. But even with how Ashley said, we all deal with it in different ways. I personally listen to Onew's solo songs and think about the good things I have in life instead of focusing on the bad things in life instead of blaming myself and hurting myself. It's hard to not do that because I've been there before but I realized how stupid I was and tried to make myself a better person because of that.
4). Birthday Party: We all tried to make you feel welcomed, but we weren't sure how to make you completely join back in. It's because you won't try and put yourself into the conversation. Plus we weren't trying in any way, shape, or form trying to rub anything in your face because we were trying on clothes. Heck all three of us can barely fit into Forever 21 clothes half the time. But back to what I was saying, we tried countless times to try and bring you back (this also goes for the other times this has happened) but you just won't unless you do it yourself, which can take hours upon hours. And I didn't want to sound like a brat, but it was my birthday party. I'm sorry for sounding snobbish if I came off that way. I honestly don't want to but it was supposed to be a fun day, not an awkward and depressing day.
5). Restating what Ashley had said, I think you might need professinal help. Because there honestly is so much me and Ashley can do to try and help/support you. We understand you want to be a better person and get help from us, but sometimes that's just not enough. We can't give you medication or methods of coming up with ways to help and cope because that's not what we're used to. Having just us isn't enough to help you fully and get better.
6). Which brings me to this, I know you have a hard time making friends. Which is why we think you need some professional help alongside us trying to help you. We don't know exactly the reason why you're the way you are and we won't ever because we aren't professinals let alone a phsycatrist. Only they will truly be able to help you out. It may be awkward and you may not want to do it, but it will help you. You can start out bby talking to a teacher you trust and try to get help from them since they've had more life experiance and may be able to help you out more than me and Ashley could. It's at least a start for you to try and get help.
7). Well since we're here and having this heart to heart talk, I might as well bring this up. I don't like it when you talk to me like I'm stupid and don't know what I'm doing. Like a couple weeks ago when I was messing with mine and Chad's power points and his didn't save and I was all "Hmm, why's this not working...oh okay I know what happened." you just started to talk to me like I was really stupid and had no clue what I was doing. It really made me feel selfconcious on what I was doing and how I was using power point. But after awhile I just brushed it off and tried to forget about it. And today when you were trying to tell me and Cheyenne that the headphone splitter thing wouldn't work for us and treated us like we were stupid kind of bugged me too. It was just the way you said it is all. You've done it a few other times but I won't go into much detail about those. It's mainly just the way you treated me like I was dumb and had no clue what I was doing is what bugged me. I just thought I should bring it up and get it off my chest before I exploded one day.
Uhm if there's anything I forgot to include please let me know so I can address it and tell you my thoughts on it.
I don't want to seem biased or give off that vibe but after reading Ashley's response, I agree with all of what she has said. I have my own points to make but what she said is basically sums up what I want to say. But I'll go into more detail for you Danielle so you can see I'm not just agreeing with her.
1). I know I don't hang out with you as much as I used to and I acknowledge that completely. I promise I will try to work on that in the near future and try my best at it.
2). For my birthday: I honestly appreciated what you said to me. It meant a lot to me and I found it cute, cheesy, and adorable. And I knew you were speaking from the heart. I didn't think any less of yours when I read Ashley's. In her's though she just praised me a lot and it made me tear up a bit is all. I'm not saying either one is better, just both provoked a different emotion out of me in how I appreciated them.
3). I don't want you to hurt yourself over issues like these because of me and who I hang out with. It's just stupid to even think about wanting to do that in my opinion. No good will come out of it at all. Because I honestly have those feelings of not wanting to ever be alone and lose you guys despite not showing it one bit. But even with how Ashley said, we all deal with it in different ways. I personally listen to Onew's solo songs and think about the good things I have in life instead of focusing on the bad things in life instead of blaming myself and hurting myself. It's hard to not do that because I've been there before but I realized how stupid I was and tried to make myself a better person because of that.
4). Birthday Party: We all tried to make you feel welcomed, but we weren't sure how to make you completely join back in. It's because you won't try and put yourself into the conversation. Plus we weren't trying in any way, shape, or form trying to rub anything in your face because we were trying on clothes. Heck all three of us can barely fit into Forever 21 clothes half the time. But back to what I was saying, we tried countless times to try and bring you back (this also goes for the other times this has happened) but you just won't unless you do it yourself, which can take hours upon hours. And I didn't want to sound like a brat, but it was my birthday party. I'm sorry for sounding snobbish if I came off that way. I honestly don't want to but it was supposed to be a fun day, not an awkward and depressing day.
5). Restating what Ashley had said, I think you might need professinal help. Because there honestly is so much me and Ashley can do to try and help/support you. We understand you want to be a better person and get help from us, but sometimes that's just not enough. We can't give you medication or methods of coming up with ways to help and cope because that's not what we're used to. Having just us isn't enough to help you fully and get better.
6). Which brings me to this, I know you have a hard time making friends. Which is why we think you need some professional help alongside us trying to help you. We don't know exactly the reason why you're the way you are and we won't ever because we aren't professinals let alone a phsycatrist. Only they will truly be able to help you out. It may be awkward and you may not want to do it, but it will help you. You can start out bby talking to a teacher you trust and try to get help from them since they've had more life experiance and may be able to help you out more than me and Ashley could. It's at least a start for you to try and get help.
7). Well since we're here and having this heart to heart talk, I might as well bring this up. I don't like it when you talk to me like I'm stupid and don't know what I'm doing. Like a couple weeks ago when I was messing with mine and Chad's power points and his didn't save and I was all "Hmm, why's this not working...oh okay I know what happened." you just started to talk to me like I was really stupid and had no clue what I was doing. It really made me feel selfconcious on what I was doing and how I was using power point. But after awhile I just brushed it off and tried to forget about it. And today when you were trying to tell me and Cheyenne that the headphone splitter thing wouldn't work for us and treated us like we were stupid kind of bugged me too. It was just the way you said it is all. You've done it a few other times but I won't go into much detail about those. It's mainly just the way you treated me like I was dumb and had no clue what I was doing is what bugged me. I just thought I should bring it up and get it off my chest before I exploded one day.
Uhm if there's anything I forgot to include please let me know so I can address it and tell you my thoughts on it.