One of the worst feelings in the world
I haven't had to confront guys about not wanting to date them in a while, but I think it sucks... You hesitate because you don't know how much they really like you and you still want to be friends. At the same time I figure its better to be completely honest and let them get over it rather than have them deal with mental traps or keep trying to chase...
I'm frustrated because I've done nothing to show Ian that I was interested in dating him. In fact, once I realized that he was starting to show interest, I did my best to politely hint I wasn't interested. Sure, I had invited him to go dancing with a group thinking he could join in with the rest of my friends and he tried to single me out and dance with me the entire night. On more than one occasion I told him I wanted to dance with someone else and then stood on the other side of the room after the dance in hopes that he wouldn't single me out again.
Earlier that week he had invited me to eat with him on Saturday and I didn't realize it was V-day or a date until it was too late. In the middle of the date I had a conversation with someone else in the room and mentioned that I wanted to go to an Anti-V-day party if I could get a ride... I think I might have actually been borderline mean/rude but I figured he wasn't going to get any hints...
I have been trying really hard not to be bitter about my dating life but if the boy I actually liked would be more clear cut about his feelings and if boys I wasn't interested in would stop putting me in uncomfortable situations, this would all be a lot easier...
I'm frustrated because I've done nothing to show Ian that I was interested in dating him. In fact, once I realized that he was starting to show interest, I did my best to politely hint I wasn't interested. Sure, I had invited him to go dancing with a group thinking he could join in with the rest of my friends and he tried to single me out and dance with me the entire night. On more than one occasion I told him I wanted to dance with someone else and then stood on the other side of the room after the dance in hopes that he wouldn't single me out again.
Earlier that week he had invited me to eat with him on Saturday and I didn't realize it was V-day or a date until it was too late. In the middle of the date I had a conversation with someone else in the room and mentioned that I wanted to go to an Anti-V-day party if I could get a ride... I think I might have actually been borderline mean/rude but I figured he wasn't going to get any hints...
I have been trying really hard not to be bitter about my dating life but if the boy I actually liked would be more clear cut about his feelings and if boys I wasn't interested in would stop putting me in uncomfortable situations, this would all be a lot easier...