Overreacting?
Sorry guys, super long rant... you can stop reading here if you don't feel like it ;)
Daniel and I are by no means in a hurry to get hitched or move in together or have children or anything like that... But, we still talk about it and know it'll eventually happen.
He started talking about maybe shopping around for a house or condo in the Fall to move into next Summer... If you buy a home, it means you plan on being there for quite some time... So, if we do plan on moving in together within a year or two, shouldn't he maybe take that into consideration for what kind of place he buys?
I mean I know that at this point in time I can't help him pay for this home and we wouldn't necessarily be moving in together that very moment. But if he get's a single bedroom small condo... we know each other well enough that we'd drive each other crazy in there!
He was mentioning to his dad over the weekend that he wanted to buy. "Naturally", his dad and wife talked about it as though WE were going to buy and waht WE both needed out of it. I didn't really make any comments, but it was nice to hear. When we walked out of there though, he said something along the lines of "so I guess we're buying this place together then?". I laughed a little nervously and said ya, I guess it's normal in their minds, and left it at that. I almost felt rebuffed, like I was infringing on his life plans.
I'd just liek to know that he wants me INCLUDED in his life somewhere along the line...
On top of that, last Sunday he had offered to my mom to give up his afternoon of sailing to help her with something, but he had to be back for his evening of cuddling with me. Awww how sweet right? Mom didn't end up needing his help after all, so he went sailing while I was at my rehersal. Long rehearsal, was looking forward to spending a quiet evening with him. I walk out of my rehearsal with a nice message saying he's spending the night on the boat and if I want to come, I should meet up with his buddy downtown at 10:00pm and get a ride with him. WHAT!? One, I WORK at 7:30 the next morning! How the hell would I get there? Two, that being said, I can't get to the boat until 11:00, then they'll be partying until the wee hours of the morning, so that leaves me to do what?
Last night, he knew I was going to my friend Valerie's place to dye her hair and watch a movie but that I'd be spending the night at his place. I tried to call him before leaving my friend's plae... no answer. I get to his place... he's not there. So I went home, pretty upset. He finally calls me and turns out he went TV shopping with a buddy, then out to dinner and they lost track of time. He knew where I was, couldn't he at least have called to let me know he'd made plans and gone out?
I KNOW he loves me, i really do... but sometimes I feel like he's so inconsiderate and it's like he doesn't even realize what he does?!
He's had very jealous girlfriends, or girlfriends who got mad if he had "boys only" outings. I'm not like that, heck, I push him to go for it and not worry if we don't spend EVERY single weekend together. It's no big deal and it gives me the opportunity to hang out with just the girls or go down to Ottawa.
So I don't say anything, cause I don't want to seem like a jealous, controling, possesive, crazy girlfriend... and part of me seems to think maybe I'm just making abig deal out of nothing? Maybe I'm just too tired because of work and rehearsals and the show going up next week that I'm more sensitive and see things, situations, that arent't really there?
I don't know... Argh!
Daniel and I are by no means in a hurry to get hitched or move in together or have children or anything like that... But, we still talk about it and know it'll eventually happen.
He started talking about maybe shopping around for a house or condo in the Fall to move into next Summer... If you buy a home, it means you plan on being there for quite some time... So, if we do plan on moving in together within a year or two, shouldn't he maybe take that into consideration for what kind of place he buys?
I mean I know that at this point in time I can't help him pay for this home and we wouldn't necessarily be moving in together that very moment. But if he get's a single bedroom small condo... we know each other well enough that we'd drive each other crazy in there!
He was mentioning to his dad over the weekend that he wanted to buy. "Naturally", his dad and wife talked about it as though WE were going to buy and waht WE both needed out of it. I didn't really make any comments, but it was nice to hear. When we walked out of there though, he said something along the lines of "so I guess we're buying this place together then?". I laughed a little nervously and said ya, I guess it's normal in their minds, and left it at that. I almost felt rebuffed, like I was infringing on his life plans.
I'd just liek to know that he wants me INCLUDED in his life somewhere along the line...
On top of that, last Sunday he had offered to my mom to give up his afternoon of sailing to help her with something, but he had to be back for his evening of cuddling with me. Awww how sweet right? Mom didn't end up needing his help after all, so he went sailing while I was at my rehersal. Long rehearsal, was looking forward to spending a quiet evening with him. I walk out of my rehearsal with a nice message saying he's spending the night on the boat and if I want to come, I should meet up with his buddy downtown at 10:00pm and get a ride with him. WHAT!? One, I WORK at 7:30 the next morning! How the hell would I get there? Two, that being said, I can't get to the boat until 11:00, then they'll be partying until the wee hours of the morning, so that leaves me to do what?
Last night, he knew I was going to my friend Valerie's place to dye her hair and watch a movie but that I'd be spending the night at his place. I tried to call him before leaving my friend's plae... no answer. I get to his place... he's not there. So I went home, pretty upset. He finally calls me and turns out he went TV shopping with a buddy, then out to dinner and they lost track of time. He knew where I was, couldn't he at least have called to let me know he'd made plans and gone out?
I KNOW he loves me, i really do... but sometimes I feel like he's so inconsiderate and it's like he doesn't even realize what he does?!
He's had very jealous girlfriends, or girlfriends who got mad if he had "boys only" outings. I'm not like that, heck, I push him to go for it and not worry if we don't spend EVERY single weekend together. It's no big deal and it gives me the opportunity to hang out with just the girls or go down to Ottawa.
So I don't say anything, cause I don't want to seem like a jealous, controling, possesive, crazy girlfriend... and part of me seems to think maybe I'm just making abig deal out of nothing? Maybe I'm just too tired because of work and rehearsals and the show going up next week that I'm more sensitive and see things, situations, that arent't really there?
I don't know... Argh!