dating like a grown-up
my divorce was supposed to be final in november. it will be final this thursday.
because i am an overacheiver (and also because it is sad to drink alone), i have already dipped a toe into the adult world of dating. a few early notes:
-apparently, i am much more open/honest/upfront about sex and politics and religion than most girls are on first dates. the men for whom this was unsettling ended up being men i was not interested in a second date with, so yay for another filter, i suppose...
-the best date i have had so far was with a man i wasn't excited at all about meeting. it was sort of, 'oh, what the hell. might as well go bowling, maybe we'll be friends,' and we have ended up going out a couple more times. so i shouldn't judge a book by its cover. or rather, i shouldn't judge a person (entirely) by his online profile.
-there are some really, really bad kissers out there. like, REALLY bad.
-boys always insist on paying for first dates. i like this. a lot.
-i really like hearing boys tell me i'm pretty. i know it is vain and stupid and something i have no control over and therefore should not take pleasure in. but hearing, 'you are very pretty. i love your smile,' makes me practically giddy (even when it comes from a bad kisser).
-dating is much more compartmentalized for me than it was before i was married. really, i've only ever been in love or not; the whole taking things slow is a new concept to me. i think this is largely because of sophie. i am happy with my life right now, and i love my job and my friends. no romantic interest has met my kid yet, and i'm fairly certain that no one will for a loooooooooooooong time.
because i am an overacheiver (and also because it is sad to drink alone), i have already dipped a toe into the adult world of dating. a few early notes:
-apparently, i am much more open/honest/upfront about sex and politics and religion than most girls are on first dates. the men for whom this was unsettling ended up being men i was not interested in a second date with, so yay for another filter, i suppose...
-the best date i have had so far was with a man i wasn't excited at all about meeting. it was sort of, 'oh, what the hell. might as well go bowling, maybe we'll be friends,' and we have ended up going out a couple more times. so i shouldn't judge a book by its cover. or rather, i shouldn't judge a person (entirely) by his online profile.
-there are some really, really bad kissers out there. like, REALLY bad.
-boys always insist on paying for first dates. i like this. a lot.
-i really like hearing boys tell me i'm pretty. i know it is vain and stupid and something i have no control over and therefore should not take pleasure in. but hearing, 'you are very pretty. i love your smile,' makes me practically giddy (even when it comes from a bad kisser).
-dating is much more compartmentalized for me than it was before i was married. really, i've only ever been in love or not; the whole taking things slow is a new concept to me. i think this is largely because of sophie. i am happy with my life right now, and i love my job and my friends. no romantic interest has met my kid yet, and i'm fairly certain that no one will for a loooooooooooooong time.