Question:
For those who don't know me I'm a therapist and this issue is a theme in my personal life, the life of eveyone I know and my clients:
when do you "give up" on something, move on. I don't mean a death, but give up on a job, a friendship, a hobby a love affair, making a "better relationship" with someone in your life? When do you stop trying to write the great American Novel or stop martial arts training or give up on a motorcycle that is dead? When do you give up on the dream to take cruise you will never afford?
Do you give up on making the change in a relationship and take it as it is? Do you give up the relationship? Do you talk about it with the person or let it drift.
If you do nanowrimo you "announce" you are going to write a novel. Do you announce you won't write any more? You no longer dream of owning a horse and 20 acres of land?
Is it giving up or being realistic? When is it compromise, self care and facing reality and when is it just unconditional surrender?
I'm interested in what people have given up or think they should give up (addiction, alcohol, sex, cigarettes, exercise, food, Yoai fanfiction count). If you have given it up how did you manage that and did you replace it? Were you pressured to give it up or continue? Do you regret it? Is there things, beliefs or relationships you have hung onto that you wish you had given up "back when I had a chance "(stupid ugly car I've sunk too much money into it to let it die but if I'd bought something else back then I would have paid it off).?
I'm just curious. I promise not analyze you just interested in what you have to say.
when do you "give up" on something, move on. I don't mean a death, but give up on a job, a friendship, a hobby a love affair, making a "better relationship" with someone in your life? When do you stop trying to write the great American Novel or stop martial arts training or give up on a motorcycle that is dead? When do you give up on the dream to take cruise you will never afford?
Do you give up on making the change in a relationship and take it as it is? Do you give up the relationship? Do you talk about it with the person or let it drift.
If you do nanowrimo you "announce" you are going to write a novel. Do you announce you won't write any more? You no longer dream of owning a horse and 20 acres of land?
Is it giving up or being realistic? When is it compromise, self care and facing reality and when is it just unconditional surrender?
I'm interested in what people have given up or think they should give up (addiction, alcohol, sex, cigarettes, exercise, food, Yoai fanfiction count). If you have given it up how did you manage that and did you replace it? Were you pressured to give it up or continue? Do you regret it? Is there things, beliefs or relationships you have hung onto that you wish you had given up "back when I had a chance "(stupid ugly car I've sunk too much money into it to let it die but if I'd bought something else back then I would have paid it off).?
I'm just curious. I promise not analyze you just interested in what you have to say.