Its not selfish, its just human nature. Its sort of a re-assurance when we know our loved one misses us and hurts when we are gone just as bad as we do. EXACTLY! lol, they did fall in love with us becasue we are so passionate, lena loved me because i care so much for others and she says i have a good heart, but in the end, she told me i expect too much, i care too much, it became a negative thing to her that i am who i am. and its weird because a huge part of me, knows she never really loved me, because when u love someone u work thru hard times, u dont run from them, or maybe thats just me :P lol. My friends mom said something last night that i think will help u. she said "in the moment u may be so mad, or so hurt, or so something and u dont really care if u break up, and u want to be mean and argue and fight and yell and end the relationship, but in the main stream of things, when u step back and think about it really, do u know and want that person to be with u, and do u want to be with that person too, could u see urself grow old with that person, and if the answer is yes, u wont be so quick to end it, because the feeling of wanting to end it, is in the now, not in the future" she also said " to love someone and how her 25 year marraige has lasted is that she excepts the good and the bad, she excepts that sometimes her husband pisses her off, and that people are who they are" this may not purtain to anything ur going thru right now, but i think it is something good to think about. I think people like me and u will always be unsatisfied about things that we want from others. there are few people like us who give up everything for someone, and i dont just mean that just literally. Our job is to learn to accept that people love us, and even tho we see and appreciate every little thing they do, that they might not see and appreciate every little thing we do.
LOL yes there would have been a heck of a lot of card making, and candle giving, and little nick-nacks here and there, we would both be totally broke from giving to the other that we would end up sitting in a room surrounded by our stuff on a friday night! lol, j/k. ok ok thats a little extreme. haha.
Cheer up doll, like i said things will work out :) wish u the best, Mandi
EXACTLY! lol, they did fall in love with us becasue we are so passionate, lena loved me because i care so much for others and she says i have a good heart, but in the end, she told me i expect too much, i care too much, it became a negative thing to her that i am who i am. and its weird because a huge part of me, knows she never really loved me, because when u love someone u work thru hard times, u dont run from them, or maybe thats just me :P lol.
My friends mom said something last night that i think will help u. she said "in the moment u may be so mad, or so hurt, or so something and u dont really care if u break up, and u want to be mean and argue and fight and yell and end the relationship, but in the main stream of things, when u step back and think about it really, do u know and want that person to be with u, and do u want to be with that person too, could u see urself grow old with that person, and if the answer is yes, u wont be so quick to end it, because the feeling of wanting to end it, is in the now, not in the future" she also said " to love someone and how her 25 year marraige has lasted is that she excepts the good and the bad, she excepts that sometimes her husband pisses her off, and that people are who they are" this may not purtain to anything ur going thru right now, but i think it is something good to think about.
I think people like me and u will always be unsatisfied about things that we want from others. there are few people like us who give up everything for someone, and i dont just mean that just literally. Our job is to learn to accept that people love us, and even tho we see and appreciate every little thing they do, that they might not see and appreciate every little thing we do.
LOL yes there would have been a heck of a lot of card making, and candle giving, and little nick-nacks here and there, we would both be totally broke from giving to the other that we would end up sitting in a room surrounded by our stuff on a friday night! lol, j/k. ok ok thats a little extreme. haha.
Cheer up doll, like i said things will work out :)
wish u the best, Mandi
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