Weddings, moms
We've always had this problem. I don't like to and don't want to do things the way my mom would do them. We are different. She knows that and she's usually the first to admit it but it pisses her off because she doesn't understand that my need to be me and do things my way is not a rejection of who she is.
Any time I try to assert myself she gets her feelings hurt or she's angry with me for not acknowledging that she's done things the "right" way. Or her attitude is that she's only trying to help and I'm being needlessly moody. Then she gives me this option: deal with me and do it my way or do it by yourself. That's not helpful. I want her to be involved in planning this wedding. I want lots of other people to be involved as well but I want to play by my rules. I want to do things my way. I feel like the wedding is becoming this big obligation instead of something that Jared and I are doing because we want to. She's not understanding that this is about Jared and I and everything else is secondary.
The worst part is that I don't have the energy to play her game or be assertive about what I want...so I just sulk and nothing gets done.
GUH.
Any time I try to assert myself she gets her feelings hurt or she's angry with me for not acknowledging that she's done things the "right" way. Or her attitude is that she's only trying to help and I'm being needlessly moody. Then she gives me this option: deal with me and do it my way or do it by yourself. That's not helpful. I want her to be involved in planning this wedding. I want lots of other people to be involved as well but I want to play by my rules. I want to do things my way. I feel like the wedding is becoming this big obligation instead of something that Jared and I are doing because we want to. She's not understanding that this is about Jared and I and everything else is secondary.
The worst part is that I don't have the energy to play her game or be assertive about what I want...so I just sulk and nothing gets done.
GUH.