I need parenting advice. :( I don't wanna post on the parenting comms tho, cos I am scared of most of the people there.. really I just read them for the entertaining dramz. :P
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A few suggestionssifukataraApril 2 2011, 17:39:19 UTC
Hi! My name is Lauren. I hope you and your daughter are doing well. I’ve read some of your parenting entries in the parenting 101 comm. I just joined it. I’ve been reading up on some of the entries until I get approved.
Anyway, first and for most, you should get Pandora’s hearing checked. That is a problem that should NOT be ignored. It’s better to be safe than sorry. If you need to be facing her for her to hear you and repeat things to her and she’s mishearing you, that could mean hearing problems.
As for her behavior, it sounds like she's being at typical three-year-old as in trying to push her boundaries and seeing how much she can get away with. Time outs may work better than taking or throwing away toys. The reason is, if it comes to throwing away something that means a lot to her, you could have a problem. Also, I wouldn't shy away from taking her to the park or mall unless she did something wrong before hand. You could use those opportunities to teach her the right way to behave.
For example, she sees two kids playing on the swings; perhaps the slightly older one is pushing the younger one on the swings. You could use that to your advantage and remark how nice it is that the older one is helping her little sister or brother and tell Pandora how nice it feels to help others. You could ask Pandora if she wants you to push her on the swings. If she says yes, remind her of the nice words she can use like please and thank you. Once she catches on, give her a chance to use them on her own the next time. I believe consistency and gentle but firm handling is the best method. Also practice what you preach. If you want her to use her manners and be more considerate of others, show her how by showing good manners and consideration to her and those around you.
As for the arguing with you, try to explain to her that treating our Ohana, family, and other people we love nicely is the way to go. Maybe when she starts arguing with you about something, you could stop and ask her gently how she's feeling and ask her if it's a situation where she can help or control some aspect of it, what she would do or if there's something she would rather do instead of getting angry back. For example, you ask her to pick up her toys and she doesn’t want to, preferring instead to watch TV. You could either try to make the chore into a game or ask her if she has a special place for each toy or suggest she put them in aan special place. Then help her do so. This way she's learning how to put things away and she knows where they are the next time she wants to play. If it's a cooking sitch like lunch or dinner and she doesn’t want a particular something you're going to cook IE the type of veggies you chose, maybe let her help you make dinner and let her choose her favorite vegetables. I hope my suggestions helped. I enjoy reading your LJ btw.
Anyway, first and for most, you should get Pandora’s hearing checked. That is a problem that should NOT be ignored. It’s better to be safe than sorry. If you need to be facing her for her to hear you and repeat things to her and she’s mishearing you, that could mean hearing problems.
As for her behavior, it sounds like she's being at typical three-year-old as in trying to push her boundaries and seeing how much she can get away with. Time outs may work better than taking or throwing away toys. The reason is, if it comes to throwing away something that means a lot to her, you could have a problem. Also, I wouldn't shy away from taking her to the park or mall unless she did something wrong before hand. You could use those opportunities to teach her the right way to behave.
For example, she sees two kids playing on the swings; perhaps the slightly older one is pushing the younger one on the swings. You could use that to your advantage and remark how nice it is that the older one is helping her little sister or brother and tell Pandora how nice it feels to help others. You could ask Pandora if she wants you to push her on the swings. If she says yes, remind her of the nice words she can use like please and thank you. Once she catches on, give her a chance to use them on her own the next time. I believe consistency and gentle but firm handling is the best method. Also practice what you preach. If you want her to use her manners and be more considerate of others, show her how by showing good manners and consideration to her and those around you.
As for the arguing with you, try to explain to her that treating our Ohana, family, and other people we love nicely is the way to go. Maybe when she starts arguing with you about something, you could stop and ask her gently how she's feeling and ask her if it's a situation where she can help or control some aspect of it, what she would do or if there's something she would rather do instead of getting angry back. For example, you ask her to pick up her toys and she doesn’t want to, preferring instead to watch TV. You could either try to make the chore into a game or ask her if she has a special place for each toy or suggest she put them in aan special place. Then help her do so. This way she's learning how to put things away and she knows where they are the next time she wants to play. If it's a cooking sitch like lunch or dinner and she doesn’t want a particular something you're going to cook IE the type of veggies you chose, maybe let her help you make dinner and let her choose her favorite vegetables. I hope my suggestions helped. I enjoy reading your LJ btw.
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