I am kinda lost - Revisiting Scott Peck
The messages I extracted from the book are the following.
* We have problems. We need discipline to solve the problems.
There are 4 tools for discipline
o delaying gratification
o acceptance of responsibility (the problem is mine, I have to solve it)
o dedication to truth (full truth in acting and saying, no hiding)
o balancing
+ openness to challenge (open to change life's road map)
+ Is our perceived truth still up-to-date? Do I need to adjust my truth?
* What gives us the energy for discipline? Loves does.
o Love is not a feeling, love is action (doing, not saying, not feeling)
o Love is not dependency (parasitism is dependency)
o Love is not self-sacrifice
o Love is not cathexis (dedicating time, having knowledge about, ...) (a hobby or a thing can be cathexis)
o Love is not "Falling in love" ("Falling in love" is a feeling)
o Love comes with the will to do something (it is planned, it is a conscious act of wanting to love, ...)
o Love is conscious (Grace, ESP or dreams are unconscious, ...)
o Love is work or courage directed toward the nurture of our own or another's spiritual growth
o Love requires attention, attend to one's personal/spiritual growth
o Love requires to listen
o Love requires to take risks
* Strengthen your partner, make her/him more valuable by herself, make her/him less dependent on you
* Question your actions if they nurture or limit the spiritual growth of the other
* Listen more to the unconscious, for it is always right and knows more than the conscious. All that the conscious knows came from the unconscious. So to speak, the unconscious is a super-set of the conscious.
This book got me thinking about the definition of love. Peck defines it as
Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.
* We have problems. We need discipline to solve the problems.
There are 4 tools for discipline
o delaying gratification
o acceptance of responsibility (the problem is mine, I have to solve it)
o dedication to truth (full truth in acting and saying, no hiding)
o balancing
+ openness to challenge (open to change life's road map)
+ Is our perceived truth still up-to-date? Do I need to adjust my truth?
* What gives us the energy for discipline? Loves does.
o Love is not a feeling, love is action (doing, not saying, not feeling)
o Love is not dependency (parasitism is dependency)
o Love is not self-sacrifice
o Love is not cathexis (dedicating time, having knowledge about, ...) (a hobby or a thing can be cathexis)
o Love is not "Falling in love" ("Falling in love" is a feeling)
o Love comes with the will to do something (it is planned, it is a conscious act of wanting to love, ...)
o Love is conscious (Grace, ESP or dreams are unconscious, ...)
o Love is work or courage directed toward the nurture of our own or another's spiritual growth
o Love requires attention, attend to one's personal/spiritual growth
o Love requires to listen
o Love requires to take risks
* Strengthen your partner, make her/him more valuable by herself, make her/him less dependent on you
* Question your actions if they nurture or limit the spiritual growth of the other
* Listen more to the unconscious, for it is always right and knows more than the conscious. All that the conscious knows came from the unconscious. So to speak, the unconscious is a super-set of the conscious.
This book got me thinking about the definition of love. Peck defines it as
Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.