a letter of healing.
I had a dream involving Evan's dad for the first time in years last night. Hearing his words and knowing what I did of him then makes me feel that he truly is remorseful and so I've done something that I've thought about doing for a long time. I sent him a message....
Thank you for agreeing to be a part of telling Evan's story on the news. I truly believe that while my portion of the story can save lives, it was your part that is going to have a huge impact. I've sat here for the past 8 years wondering if you had any remorse for what you've done and hearing your words gave me a sense of closure in that respect. Im not going to say that there arent times when I dont get angry or curse your actions, but I now think its important that you know that I've let go of as much hatred regarding this that I possibly can. I realized years ago that I had 2 options here---I could live the rest of my life in grief over what has happend to Evan or I could try and make something positive of it and move forward. I chose the later and part of that meant that I had to try to forgive you. I could tell from what you were saying that you've grown from this experience and I hope now that you can finally heal. I hope that I can finally heal as much as I can. This pain will never fully go away as I see Evan's daily struggles but hearing your words gave me a sense of relief. I now dont have to worry about forcing Evan to do anything that neither him nor I are ready for and that lifted a huge weight from my shoulders. Thank you for understanding that.
Telling Evan's story and advocating for these babies is what keeps me going ...Its what heals me. I hope that it does the same for you as well.
A good friend couldn't have put it any better:
I can NOT imagine how much it takes in you to get to this point and to be able to send that message to Matt. It's the right thing..sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same as they say..
Perhaps Matt has a fight unlike anyone else..and hearing from the one person who has all the reason to never let him forget has to be incredibly healing for him. That is truly selfless on your part.
"Making something positive of it and moving forward", while probably not apparent to Evan right now, is one of the biggest and best things you can instill in him..that is a life lesson in EVERYTHING we face. Good Job Mom!
My mom (of all people) has also found forgiveness in her heart after seeing his story and called my words "beautiful and elegant". I did right....
Thank you for agreeing to be a part of telling Evan's story on the news. I truly believe that while my portion of the story can save lives, it was your part that is going to have a huge impact. I've sat here for the past 8 years wondering if you had any remorse for what you've done and hearing your words gave me a sense of closure in that respect. Im not going to say that there arent times when I dont get angry or curse your actions, but I now think its important that you know that I've let go of as much hatred regarding this that I possibly can. I realized years ago that I had 2 options here---I could live the rest of my life in grief over what has happend to Evan or I could try and make something positive of it and move forward. I chose the later and part of that meant that I had to try to forgive you. I could tell from what you were saying that you've grown from this experience and I hope now that you can finally heal. I hope that I can finally heal as much as I can. This pain will never fully go away as I see Evan's daily struggles but hearing your words gave me a sense of relief. I now dont have to worry about forcing Evan to do anything that neither him nor I are ready for and that lifted a huge weight from my shoulders. Thank you for understanding that.
Telling Evan's story and advocating for these babies is what keeps me going ...Its what heals me. I hope that it does the same for you as well.
A good friend couldn't have put it any better:
I can NOT imagine how much it takes in you to get to this point and to be able to send that message to Matt. It's the right thing..sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same as they say..
Perhaps Matt has a fight unlike anyone else..and hearing from the one person who has all the reason to never let him forget has to be incredibly healing for him. That is truly selfless on your part.
"Making something positive of it and moving forward", while probably not apparent to Evan right now, is one of the biggest and best things you can instill in him..that is a life lesson in EVERYTHING we face. Good Job Mom!
My mom (of all people) has also found forgiveness in her heart after seeing his story and called my words "beautiful and elegant". I did right....